I'm not very good with friendships but over the last year or so I have managed to become friends with a small group of mums from school (mum's from my DD's class)
There are 6 women in this group but 2 of them work part time leaving 4 of us doing the school rat run every day & one of these mums works as a ta in the school.
I was asked at the beggining of last year if my DD wanted to do flower arranging after schol, when I asked where & when I was told by this ta mum friend that she was organising it & it has turned out that only our 4 daughters attend after school.
So in this past year I have sent in a few bunches of flowers & some leaves etc & most days my DD has given her arrangement to any passing teacher on the way out.
No problems.
2 weeks ago DD came out of flower arranging telling me "you need to give ta friend £2"
Bit confussed so popped my head round & asked what she needs money for & got told I am meant to be paying £2 a week for flower arranging [hmmm] first I have been told about it but really not a problem paying £2 a week just wish she had told me when we started as I assumed it was a school funded activity just like science club & netball.
Nothing at all to do with this incident but DD has been struggling with homework & spellings so we have cut her clubs to one a week instead of 5 & flower arranging is going to be one of the clubs she isn't going to any more.
Didn't get a chance to tell ta friend that we aren't going anymore because I overheard a convo between her & another school friend mum saying "well if she can't be bothered to pay you then just don't let x (my DD) come today".
I know it shouldn't bother me but my instant reaction as always is to distance myself & just not bother being friends with someone who would rather gossip behind my back over something so stupid - No one ever mentioned paying per week but all of a sudden it's whispers of "x's mum has never paid for flower arranging"
I wanted to take £10 to the school today & just tell ta mum we are not doing it anymore & here is the money to cover this terms fees. And then have nothing more to do with her & her gossiping friend but my husband thinks I should say something about them talking behind my back?
I'm so not good with confrontation, especially when we are only talking about some rubbish flower arranging class.
What do you think & sorry it's so long.
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ladybirdladybirdflyawayhome · 05/10/2010 10:38
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