It's quite sad, as she is one of my best friends. We've known each other since school (I am mid twenties so it's not really that long) and know pretty much everything about each other.
But she is very, very laissez-faire about bothering to keep up the friendship, and I feel it's always down to me. She has a PAYG mobile (not that there's anything wrong with that) which she allows to run out of credit for days at a time (that's the annoying bit) and so will rarely reply to texts, even ones that ask a direct question like 'what are you up to this weekend, want to do something?'. If she had run out of credit, she could use her bf's mobile to reply or call but doesn't.
She can't be bothered to learn to drive, so if we do do something I have to drive out and get her, then deliver her home afterwards. If for whatever reason I can't do that, she won't come (she could get public transport but it is a bit of a hike and lots of changes and I don't live on a bus route).
I am always the one arranging things as well, she never does. Even when I was going away for two months she made hardly any effort to see me before I went, just sent a text saying 'Oh is it this weekend you're going to x, good luck!'
I don't think she is purposely selfish, but she comes from the sort of family who run around after her a lot (she is the baby of the family) and pander to her.
When we are together we get on great, we both refer to each other as a very close friend and there's a lot of good history. So I don't think it's that she doesn't really like me (could be though) But it's a bit depressing that she can't get her act together enough to meet up. My university friends are much more proactive and will drive halfway across the country for my birthday or whatever.
Should I just stop bothering and see what happens?
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fuschiagroan · 26/09/2010 18:01
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