To wonder how many time I have to apologise before h will speak to me after accidently breaking the camera

[springchik]

Went out today and ds1s put his coat on a picnic bench we were sat at. Not picnicing btw just sat there! Anyway I got up and picked up ds1s coat the camera went flying and landed on the floor. Didnt know the camera was even there. It worked for awhile but is now broken. Dh is furious with me. Spent alot of the afternoon after we got back looking at it and trying it over and over. Kept going on about what a new camera is going to cost him. Snapped at the dc aged 2 and 5. Out now but is still furious with me! :(

[pinkbasket]

It was an accident. Ignore his tantrum. Tell him to stop being an idiot over and inanimate object that is replaceable.

[MrsGravy]

He sounds like a complete arse. It was an accident!! It may even be covered on house insurance - worth taking a look at. When my DH knocked my new phone flying and it smashed to pieces I was unamused but would never have been furious with him.

I'd stop apologising tbh. Has he NEVER had an accident himself??

[SciFiFan]

I know how you're feeling springchik. I scraped an alloy wheel on our new car and it was if the world as my DH knew it had ended. You've never seen such an over-reaction.

I apologised and bought his favourite cheesecake but he didn't speak to me all night. In the end I ended up not speaking to him due to his severe over reaction. These things happen, they're accidents we've said sorry get over it!

Unfortunately that isn't much help to you in your present predicament but I wanted you to know you're not alone.

BTW my DH still brings it up now and it happened over a year ago .

[blinks]

weirdo

[springchik]

who me or dh?

[c0rns1lk]

he is being really childish

[pinkbasket]

I expect if you shagged him he would forgive you.

Not that there is anything to forgive..

[HecateQueenOfWitches]

it was an accident. one apology should be enough.

I always say to my boys "Nobody is ever in trouble for an accident."

[werewolf]

Check your house insurance, may well be covered.

Who put the camera on the seat - was it dh, so he's feeling guilty?

[Roobie]

God I get this all the time whenever I accidently break something. I also badly scraped an alloy (and put some minor denting in the side panel ) on our new car a few weeks ago and Dh hit the roof with a totally hysterical, shrill reaction (yes, SciFiFan - it was as if his whole world had come crashing down!). This nevers ends well in our house as I just tell him to fuck off and then things get nasty. What they don't seem to appreciate is that you are already annoyed with yourself and cross/disappointed for doing it in the first place - the extra telling off is not necessary!

[cupcakesandbunting]

Leave him immediately.

[Hedgeblunder]

Oh leave him to it, silly old fart

[springchik]

Leave him immediately? Abit extreme dont you think?

[c0rns1lk]

Thinks she's joking springchik!

[fedupofnamechanging]

He could have done it just as easily as you. I think he is being a total git for treating you this way. I don't think you should have to apologise at all - it was an accident. You haven't done anything wrong.

If anyone should be cross, it shpuld be you, over the way he is now behaving. I have stroppy cow tendencies and would have told him to stfu about his sodding camera by now!

[PlumBumMum]

Please do not apologise again
Make it clear to him it was an accident and you won't tolerate his behaviour over a camera, no-one is hurt and yes they are expensive to replace but it doesn't have to be!

I really feel for you, as my dad is like this and it used to make me feel sick to the stomach,
one day I was out in dhs(then bf) car and someone stole all the wheel trims, I cried all the way to get him from work because I thought if this was my dad he would be furious,
He was annoyed at me for crying and being upset because at the end of the day its only a car/camera etc there are more important things to stress about,
I couldn't believe his reaction it was the opposite of how my dad would have reacted, don't let our dh away with it

[mrsruffallo]

I second leaving him to it

[shimmerysilverglitter]

Oh what a doughbut. Leave him to stew I would. What a Big Baby. I wouldn't even have apologised at all tbh, it was an accident. Sounds like your dh has a big old blame culture going on in your house.

Actually I am not going to shriek "LEAVE HIM IMMEDIATELY" but my ex's ability to blame me for anything and everything that went wrong at all levels WAS a huge factor in our break up. I became so scared of the blame that I was either too scared to tell him or unhealthily defiant and aggressive about anything that went wrong, a recipe for disaster.

[Danthe4th]

Have you checked your household insurance? as ours covers cameras and money away from home

[bigchris]

A bj would surely sort it

[catsmother]

For fuck's sake .... he's being a complete twat. The camera's broken - it wasn't deliberate, what more can be done apart from checking your house insurance which (may) cover most of it. Would he be happy if you wore sackcloth and ashes and slept on the floor at the foot of the bed tonight as penance ?

[cupcakesandbunting]

Actual lol at Chris

[nemofish]

Blimey

I have broken the TV (cleaning fluid related mishap)

Dh has broken the mp3 player (WHY won't this lead fit? Oh yes it's because it's the wrong one and is now irrevocably jammed in there...)

We are evens. We laugh about it, what else can you do, stupid stuff happens.

It amazes me how childish some blokes can be. That's why I married Dh as he is soooo ooooold...

[blinks]

him

[ninah]

thank fuck I am not married. sounds like primary school all over again