Sorry thread title may be a bit harsh there, just a bit wound up about it.
Dh and I have 2 friends who used to be together now they're not, both went on to have other (horrible abusive esp in her case) relationships which they're now thankfully out of. The bloke is now seeing another woman but as far as I knew it's v on and off, last i herad they'd split, he never mentions her and brushes off any conversation about her.
My friend the original woman has just got out a hideous relationship and is having to hide at her mums til it all settles down, she asked me for exs number to give her some advice with some practical stuff re the house she'll even tually move in to. I know thw bloke is fine with this, he's expressed a desire to be friends and both are regretful they'd lost contact.
So I gave her the number.
Cue a text to me from an unknown number this weekend from his apparent gf (even though he's not mentioned her for weeks and last i heard they'd split up) telling me not to "meddle" in their raltsionship and threatening to give out my dhs number to all his exs .
Dh is good friends with one of his exs, she's one of my good mates too and ds Godmother, dh and her go mountain biking together, I have no prob with it. he's also friends with his ex from school and recently saw her to support her when her Dad died.
This person went through our friends phone first to check his texts ( and saw a few totally innocuous ones from my mate his ex) in secret and then searched out my number to send me her fruitloop text.
I personally think this is unreasonable behaviour, it's between them if she's paranoid about his ex and going through someones phone is unacceptable, texting me is massively out of order, and her behaviour is indicative of someone immature and insecure. Or am I too blase about it? Just because i don't have issues like this it's still ok for other people to behave lke this within a relationship?
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to think you CAN trust your dh/dp to be friends with an ex and this woman was behaving like an insecure paranoid fruitloop?
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minxofmancunia · 31/08/2010 09:39
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