Background - me and DP moved about 150 miles from where we grew up and friends and family about 3 years ago - mainly for my job. However in the past few months we have been feeling like we would like to move back to be closer to friends and family and were looking into what that would take.
Since moving DP has started a new job which he REALLY loves. The change in him has been phenomenal and I can tell that he is so suited to this job and it is so good for his confidence and general happiness.
A few weeks ago I found out I was nearly 5 months pregnant. I have gynacological condition which meant I had been told that this would never happen and also didn't have the monthlies hence the not knowing (thought the morning sickness was gastric flu!!!)
Anyway - it's my first baby and despite having lived here for a couple of years we don't have a great friend network down here and obviously family is not here. This has made me want to move home all the more. I'm not sure how I would cope being on maternity leave and not having people around me to see/ help/ support - particularly sad about not having my Mom close. I had very close relationship with my Grandparents when I was growing up and want the same for little one.
SO we discussed - moving would mean selling flat in negative equity (not that much though) which I would need to cover with a loan. It would mean me not knowing what would happen after maternity leave as might have to travel for work, moving from owning a home to renting, and DP trying to get a transfer at work. All of this would need to be done in the later stages of pregnancy/ early on in little ones life.
So we agreed that we would do all of this and have set the ball rolling. Only problem is that DPs job are stalling on the transfer request. They are saying now is not a good time. He has said that if they don't grant agree to a transfer in the next 6 months he will look for job back home and quit this one. Can I really ask him to do this? I really feel moving is so important. Am I being to precious?
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giantpurplepeopleeater · 23/08/2010 11:19
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