to turn down a full-time job and let my DH support me?

[SassySusan]

DH works full-time and I work part-time (2 1/2 days a week). We are comfortable financially, and don't get any state benefits.

My boss has offered to make my job full-time. There is no practical reason I couldn't do the hours. DH says it's up to me whether I want to do the f/t hours or not.

So am I being unreasonable to sit on my fanny for half the week, spending DH's hard earned, considering he doesn't seem to mind?

[emkana]

hope you got your hard head ready!

What about children? Ages?

[MollysChambers]

No not at all. It's a partnership. If it works for you both then why not?

[booyhoo]

if there is no reaosn not to then i would. think of all the extra cash. even if you don't need it (lucky you) you could save it for something special.

[iamamug]

YANBU - part-time works perfectly for me and the jobs are actually very hard to come by. If you enjoy what you do and don't particularly want to work F/T - and don't need to - then do whatever makes you happy.

[tholeon]

If he doesn't mind, no, I don't think so at all.

[hope you are doing ok, if that doesn't break mumsnet etiquette, apols if so.]

[Nyx]

In your position, if your DH really doesn't mind, then I wouldn't go back full time. I don't know what your job is, but mine - while I do like it - got so much better once I went part time (3 days a week) - I am much happier.

[SassySusan]

Thanks tholeon - it doesn't break my etiquette

Thank mjinhiding I suppose I am filled with Catholic guilt - xtra money is always handy, and would make us more secure in case DH lost his job - which isn't imminent, but may happen in future....

Part of me feels uncomfortable about letting DH "subsidise" me

Emkana there are no children to look after at the moment

[sanielle]

I don't have any kids, we haven't got loads of cash and don't get any handouts.. But I work part time. It means DH has nice dinners ready. It means I can do things I like to do and occasionally clean my house. It means my pets are happy. I'm a lot more relaxed this way and house runs smoother. I do think one person at home can actualy be a good thing financially as childcare is expensive, ready meals are expensive, cleaners are expensive. I think a 4o hour week can't be healthy myself and that it isn't healthy for marriages and relationships in general. I wish Dh could work part time but we need his wage as me makes quite a bit more than I do. Plus he trained for his job so I think maybe gets a bit more out of it than I do mine. Do you enjoy your job?

[sanielle]

Sorry I am not very good at remebering who is who Sassy. Just realized who you were, more appropriate question should have been: Would getting out of the house more help you? Or is it actually much too soon for you? differant situation than mine.

Hope you are well

[SassySusan]

Do I enjoy my job?

Hmm... good question... I used to be very career orientated and really live for work... but since going part-time, the job I'm doing is a bit sleepy, and I've been more focused on other stuff.

[Alouiseg]

I bet you don't actually sit on your fanny for half the week though do you?

Do what makes you happy and what works for your family. Its the only way.

[SassySusan]

oh ....

I thought people would say, get a fulltime job... you lazy so and so...

[sanielle]

No, if everyone on mumsnet believed in full time work.. mumsnet would be a lot quieter....

[Alouiseg]

I think motherhood is a full-time job. Even when they're at school. Flame shield at the ready.

[SassySusan]

OK, [guilt mode off]

Thanks ladies...

Any dissent?

[SassySusan]

I agree alouiseg but I dont' have any DCs at the moment

[Alouiseg]

Fancy lunch then

[AnyFucker]

I work 2.5 days a week, e works 4.5 days

my children are too old to really use them as an excuse to work FT

but I don't want to work FT

the fact I don't means our weekends are spent more on "weekendy" stuff, not simply catching up on washing/housework

I do more around the house than him

works for us

[bunnymother]

Just wait till Xenia finds this thread

Sassy - have read some of your other threads. In your position I would be kind to myself and enjoy not having FT work pressures.

[AnyFucker]

fuck Xenia

[japaneseknotwood]

I think it's fine if it's what you both want, but not if it makes him feel pressured. You could always step up to full-time if money problems came along, or if you needed to support yourself for whatever reason.