AMBU or are the neighbours? (bit long, sorry)

[mummysgoingmad]

It all started this morning. My dp and i heard our downstatirs neighbours fighting and yelling at each other, we had a joke about how it must be bad when your fighting 1st thing in the morning.

Anyway next thing we hear is the argument spilling outside and wheeley bin being raided then bottles being smashed, heard somebody shouting "i'm going to phone my dad". Waited till i thought everyone had went back inside and seen a litre bottle of grants vodka smashed all over the drive.

Left home at 1 went into town, said bottle and all its fragments still there.

Came home at 5 and the bottle is gone but a lot of big bits of glass lying around.I have a 20month ds who picks things up from the ground outside, who falls, who basically spends as much time in our little garden as possible.

I thought i'm not having this so i went to the door, was faced with the glasgow version of lady gaga (the daughter) and said "its about the glass is someone going to pick that up?"

Lady gaga: "it wasn't me"
Me: I'm not interested in who it was, what i am interested in is the safety of my child, its not safe out here for him to play. it wasn't my household that made the mess!"
She said ok and started cleaining it up. went inside. Her mother then banged my door down and said it wasn't my daughter who made that mess, I said exactly the same thing to which she said well it wasn't us. I kind of lost the rag a bit and said we heard you out in the garden this morning its pointless trying to deny it, what you do in your own house is none of my concern but when it spills on to our shared driveway and that driveway is then made unfit for me to use the it is my buisness.

The 1st week we moved in it was lady gagas boyfriend smashing botttles adnd egging windows. Now these pair of misfits are around 23 i think the mother said, so not teenagers and should know better so it would not be that wrong to asume that they were at it again would it?

My question is was i being unreasonable expecting to pick up the glass?

[Mowgli1970]

YANBU, but sadly not everyone is concerned with other people. Good for you for going round and being assertive though!

[silverten]

No YANBU. Sounds like you handled it well. Hope things calm down and you don't get further trouble from anyone.

[Hassled]

There's domestic violence going on in the flat below and you're worried about some glass? Really? Are you not concerned about the welfare of the Lady Gaga?

[mummysgoingmad]

no not really i'm more concerned with the welfare of my child, lady gaga sounded if she was dishing more out than she was getting, i think it was her throwing the glass bottles

[booyhoo]

someone smashing bottles is domestic violence?

[booyhoo]

and how do you know that it wasn't lady gaga smashing them hassled? i think you might be assuming a bit much here.

OP yanbu, you have a right to be able to use the driveway.

[peeringintothevoid]

Er, when did the OP mention DV Hassled ? Screaming rows and bottles being smashed do not necessarily equal DV.

OP YADNBU! Well done you for standing your ground and not putting up with this sort of behaviour.

[LittleMissHissyFit]

YANBU to think that they ought to clear up after themselves, but sadly, YABU to expect them to think of it without being told to do so...

God that mother has some brass neck to bang on your door!, where is the shame that her row has caused the place to look like a warzone, and that she ought to clear it all up before someone sees her dirty laundry being aired.

This is the last time they get away with it, report them to anyone and everyone you can if this happens again.

Are you renting or is this a house you have bought?

Start looking to move, me thinks, this is not going to get better overnight, if at all....

[mummysgoingmad]

I'm renting this flat i've been here 1 month. When we 1st moved in i explained to the mother i was moving out of an awful flat and didnt have a back garden. I told her we would use it a lot for ds and she said oh we're a quite bunch wont get much noise from us. we'l do the garden take the bins out ets etc. I thought i'd hit the jackpot..sadly not!

I dont want them to think i'll tolerate this kind of behaviour because i wont. Neighbours can make your life a misery if you dont stand up to them.

[booyhoo]

unfortunately mummys if neighbours are going to make your life a misery, they will do it whether you stand up to them or not.