(D)H and I were driving back from a weekend away late last night. DS (4 months old) was sleeping in his car seat in the back.
We were on the motorway and (D)H was driving a bit too fast for my liking ? he was going above 80 at all times, and sometimes nearer to 90, in the outside lane. I had twice asked him to slow down, as (leaving aside any legal/speeding issues) I don?t like to go so fast with DS in the car. He didn?t.
Anyway, the motorway was pretty empty, but there were a lot of people sitting in the middle lane when there was nothing in the inside lane for miles. (D)H took a dislike to this (TBH it bugs me too) and started driving up behind the people in the middle lane, flashing them, and when they didn?t move over, overtaking them in the outside lane.
He had done this a couple of times (even after I had asked him not to) when he did it to a guy in a silver BMW. (D)H then moved to overtake him and before moving back in again. Unfortunately, the guy accelerated as (D)H was moving back into the middle lane (meaning it was a very close shave when (D)H moved left) and then tailgated us for a mile or two, accelerating to 90 or so, weaving in and out of the lanes, and cutting us up. (D)H continued to drive at 85 or so and (despite me asking) refused to back off or pull over.
I was absolutely terrified by then and when this guy started tailgating us again, I put the hazard lights on (they are in the middle of the car, so easy for the front passenger to reach). The guy then backed off, undertook us, and drove away.
(D)H then went completely ballistic at me, saying I had put us in danger by putting the hazard lights on, that I had ?distracted him from the road? and ?made the situation more dangerous?. The mother of all rows then followed and I asked him why he had refused to back off and he said that ?he was driving perfectly sensibly? and ?was in the right?. I said I didn?t know any father who drove like that with their child in the car and I didn?t care who was technically in the right if we all ended up dead following a high speed smash with some nutter.
So, was I being unreasonable to use the hazard lights (given that I wasn?t driving) or was (D)H being unreasonable to be driving like that? I have said that I won?t let him drive me and DS on the motorway until he has shown me he can drive safely, is this a massive over-reaction?
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To have been terrified by H's driving?
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pinkypanther · 26/07/2010 08:06
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