I know I am but need to vent.

[slushy]

I have been looking after my friends little girl today free for her to work.

I have looked after her all morning when my friend comes to pick her up she fetches her dog even though she knows my dog and her dog do not get along and I have to put my dog outside, DD is sleeping my one chance for a bit of a break today.

Her dog pisses on my floor as he is still quite young, I ask that she clean it up with tissue and wait to get the mop because my dd is sleeping and rumaging in the cupboard next to where she is sleeping will wake her. Friend purses lips leaves room to see her dd comes back and says I want to go home I am hungry so shall I mop now or do I have to come all the way back up later. I say we have had lunch I can make you some if you would like friend says no I want to go home. I will get the mop gets the mop wakes my dd up.

Promptly leaves and there goes my break, DD awake, dog wound up because he saw their puppy and was put outside, and my ds is bouncing around now thanks too being wound up by all the commotion. I am really annoyed and angry and feel like she has totally taken advantage for the record I have never asked her to mind my dc as I don't need it.

[RuthieCohen]

don't think you're BU. You mind her dd for free, her dog pisses on your floor and won't clean it up with a tissue and she has the nerve to do cat's bum face at you?

I'd be livid and never do her a favour again!

[slushy]

I should clarify I asked her to wipe it up with a tissue and then mop because dd spends a lot of time on the floor so I asked her to wipe it up with tissue first then mop when dd wakes up.

[MrsWobbleTheWaitress]

YABU

Why couldn't you just wipe it up with the mop after she'd gone and your DD had woken up? You actually made her hang around waiting until your DD woke up?

[teaandcakeplease]

Do you think she even realised though why you didn't want to get the mop? Did you explain? She may have just thought, why not just mop, it's far easier? Having said that though, if I was at someone elses house and they asked me to clean it up with kitchen roll, I would have. Not ignored it and gone to the cupboard for the mop anyway Seems a bit rude.

She sounds the sort that doesn't worry too much about offending/ irritating other people and is laize faire (sp?) about everything I guess in the future its better to make it clear you do not want the dog brought to yours etc.

[Jackstini]

Understand you would be annoyed but my sleeping dd would have taken priority.
I would have handed her the kitchen roll saying, I'll mop it properly later as dd is asleep and I don't want to wake her.
If there is a next time (ha, ha - big IF!) I would have her dd ready & waiting so her dog doesn't come in

[sapphireblue]

YABU. If you knew getting the mop would wake your DD and you wanted DD to stay asleep that badly, then you could have just mopped it yourself after she woke.

[slushy]

MrsWobbleTheWaitress yes I should have done it myself but I was annoyed that she bought the dog so was being a bit huffy(yes I know it was childish to be huffy) the dog would only have had to wait 5 minutes literally before hse got home if she had picked her dd up first.

teaandcakeplease I explained at first why I wanted her to wait but she said I will be quiet and just went and got it I was distracted seeing to ds.

I think I will have to make it clear the dog does not come. I have this two days a week at least for the rest of the holidays sigh.

[slushy]

Cant have her dd ready sometimes she works for a hour sometimes 3 sometimes 4 E.T.C she does not know till she gets to work.

[thumbwitch]

Half and half - she should have
a) not brought her dog into your house - why couldn't it be left outside instead of yours having to go out?
b) wiped up the pee herself

But as others said you could have mopped it yourself later, when you were ready for DD to wake up - got everything ready to go and then got the mop and done it quickly before DD had time to draw breath.

[SloanyPony]

"I ask that she clean it up with tissue and wait to get the mop because my dd is sleeping and rumaging in the cupboard next to where she is sleeping will wake her. Friend purses lips leaves room to see her dd comes back and says I want to go home I am hungry so shall I mop now or do I have to come all the way back up later"

Sounds like she was using a bit of sarcasm - "do I have to come all the way back later" - are you sure you weren't ordering her around?

I'm sure she was happy to clean up after her own dog, but what's the bet you were a bit arsey about the fact she brought her dog, picked up on that vibe, and made her feel a bit unwelcome so she just wanted to get out of there?

Are you the kind of friend who does a favour but never lets them forget it?

I might be wrong - in which case YANBU but I am really picking up an arsey vibe from your post and wonder if your friend wishes she'd never asked...

[swanandduck]

She was a bit rude but you were a bit petty as well. Couldn't you just have said 'don't worry, I'll mop it up later. Don't want to wake dd'. I would imagine your friend felt a bit on the defensive.

[slushy]

Because I have no front garden so she brings him in and I have to take my dog out the back.

Yes I know I should have mopped it myself which is why I know IABU really, also most people when finishing work want to go home and relax. Oh well I have learned my lesson I will ask for the dog to stay at hers and try to have her dd things ready by the door next time.

[slushy]

"Are you the kind of friend who does a favour but never lets them forget it? "

No she is a single mum and I mind her dd all school holidays because I know she finds it hard and can't afford childcare and has no family but I have never threw it in her face or used it.

I was being petty I have asked before not to fetch the dog but when I opened the doorshe said she was just grabbing her dd so she thought it would be fine. But I was being petty as I said I knew I was being unreasonable.

[corriefan]

YABU you clearly resented looking after her daughter 'for free' and were really cross about her bringing her puppy in and made that very obvious by being funny with her about mopping it up.

[slushy]

I honestly don't resent caring for her dd at all, it gives my ds a play friend through the holidays and if I resented it I would not do it.

But I did resent her fetching the dog I have said on many occasions that I don't want him to come up because my dog has to go outside and she keeps asking me to look after the dog while she works to. So yes I was was being pissy and unreasonable about the dog being fetched up as I felt she was just trying to push after I have asked for him not to come.

[Doozie]

You're minding her dd all school holidays for free - I think she can cut you a bit of slack if you're a little petty on this occassion. If she doesn't like it - good luck to her finding some one else as kind and accommodating. Just watch she doesn't take the piss. She should respect your request not to bring the dog around.

[char3mum]

ugh isn't it a pain when people think their dogs are welcome, put your foot down hun, i understand how you feel though, just chilling while kids take a nap then all hell breaks loose, she was being thoughtless, but in fairness thought she'd kill two birds with one stone walking dog and collecting little one. I would have asked her to clean it up too, although i would have been happy with the anti bac until your little one woke

Are you having second thoughts about being her gratis childcare?

[slushy]

No no second thoughts about childcare I am lucky I have a wonderful caring partner and I see how much she struggles,plus I enjoy caring for her little girl as my ds really likes to play with her and the little girl is very pleasant and I have looked after her for 5 years now.

I shall remind her gently that I don't want the dog to come into my house until the dogs are better behaved together as all hell breaks lose(I walk them both see so they will learn to get on she can't because my dog is to big) and hope she listens or waits outside with her dog while I get her dd ready .