To think my dad's behaviour is crap?

[poshsinglemum]

My poor mum is going to hospital tomorrow to hav eher mouth cancer treated. It's going to be a big opperation followed by months of radiotherapy.
I wanted to say goodbye to her properly before she went in but no- my dad had to make it all about him. We went for a nice coffee in her favourite cafe this morning and wehn we got back to the house my dad started going through my bags. I snapped and told him to leave my stuff alone and he went in the house and slammed teh door in my face before I could say bye to mum properly.
I let myself in and had a goodbye hug with mum who was in floods of tears as she didn't want to leave dd.
I know we are all very emotional right now but dad has been emotionally abusive towards mum for years and I've never heard him say that he loves her at all.So I feel that he slammed the door to make it about him and his hurt pride rather than about him being genuinely concerned for mum. Even when she asks him he grunts. He probably is upset that she's ill but I am FUMING with him as I wanted a nice, loving goodbye with mum and he managed to ruin it and make it about him.

I know this is awful and bad behaviour on my part but sometimes I have debates with him that I know will wind him up like immigaration as I love a good debate. The problem is he takes my contrary opinion really personally. He cannot hande differences of opinion at all and hates his pride being hurt.

I am also angry with him for not showing mum enough love and affection over the years as she is a very loving person. Now she is ill he has been supportive but he still has emotional problems.

[Flisspaps]

YANBU

Hope all goes well for your Mum tomorrow.