what do you do when 2 year old wants the foods they cant have

[moljam]

ds2 is cows milk intolerant.hes begun trying to get things out of fridge such as-he wanted cows milk yesterday and yoghurts(he has soya ones).i told him it makes his belly poorly but dont think he understood.how do you deal with it?

[Psychomum5]

how long has it been since he has had anything that he reacts too??

when mine were tiny and reacting, I had to 'check' the reaction every few months to see if they had grown out of it at all, or if they were beginning to develope some resistance to it......ie.....after a while, a biscuit wouldn't cause a reaction, yet something with higher milk content would.

Because I tried every so often tho, they got to know that their body didn;t like sertain foods, making it easier for them to understand when I said they weren't allowed to eat somehting IYGWIM.

At 2, mine were certtainly able to handle trace amounts of milk, as they weren't allergic, just intolerant.
I, on the other hand, am allergic, so trace amounts make me VERY poorly.....but then I am an adult and so understand this....obviously.

It IS much harder with tinies, but sometimes, the only way is for them to be able to liken it to a certain feeling. if he has been ill recently you could refer to that feeling, as to feed him said food just to 'show' him could be classed as very very mean!

[dippydeedoo]

IT GETS EASIER MATTS WHOSE 7 WAS DIAGNOSED AS ALLERGIC TO COWS MILK AND WHEAT NOW HE IS ABLE TO TOLERATE SMALL AMOUNTS BUT HE REALISES THE EFFECTS TOO MUCH HAS AND WILL REFUSE FOOD IF HE KNOWS HES HAD SOME ALREADY.

I HAD THIS WITH HIM THO TOO IT WAS ALMOST AS IF HE CRAVED IT,I HAD TO PUT MILK UP HIGH I EVEN CAUGHT HIM GOING TOWARDS THE CATS MILK IN ITS DISH I JUST USED TO PT THINGS HE COULD HAVE WITHIN HIS REACH ...HORRID THO I KNOW X

[coastalmum]

Agree gets easier. My ds is 3, he loves going to the shops, just the 2 of us, to buy special food like dairy choc buttons, choc oat milk, etc. I try to save these trips for when he's feeling fed up or left out.

Also helped when he made a friend at nursery who also dairy free, they share their 'special milk' at snack time.

[moljam]

thankyou everyone.
he is ok sometimes with things that have traces of milk in-like a biscuit(granny doesnt get it!)
mybe i should try him then on bit of milk.

[keresley]

use the containers of allergy type food. E.g - if he wants a noddy yoghurt, buy them, empty the container, wash it out and refill with the yoghurt he can have.He needn't know what you have done. Have 'swap box' filled with treats he can have plus small toys. If he has anything he can't have, get him to swap the item for something in his swap box. Use choc buttons to melt down and fill into moulds to make fun animal (or whatever)chocolate sweets. Hope this helps.

[moljam]

thankyou that is nice idea.i do wory though that say if for example i put his soya yoghurt in a dairy yoghurt pot hed think he could have the normal ones if we were out or if he helped himself-which he does!

[ratbunny]

btw the suggested order of introduction to dairy on a dairy-challenge (from ds's allergist) is :
milk in biscuits
butter
hard cheese
soft cheese / yogurt
milk

so he may be ok on the butter / cheese but not the yogurt iyswim

[stirlingmum]

Wow - TOTALLY disagree with Keresley.
My dd is allergic to all dairy and I would NEVER put a soya yogurt in a normal yorgurt pot. She would then think that it was ok to have any yogurt.
You must always be totally honest with kids.
My dd is 3 and she tells other people what she can eat.
I dont even like giving her dairy free choc because I think that confuses them.

[moljam]

stirlingmum- i agree it would be confusing.
ratbunny-thanks!

[twentypence]

When ds was 2 we didn't have anything in the house he couldn't have. Which meant 2 years without a banana. But now we have the stuff in the house, because we had to prepare him for school.

Ds is now 5 and will not help himself to food. Even at a party.