Drinking to excess and don't know how to stop

[Ladywithababy1]

I feel desperate. Yet again I drank to oblivion at the weekend, ending in me making a fool of myself and my husband having to basically pick me up when I fell over in public and me being sick in a cab (none of which I remember).

I hate myself so much as I seem to do this about once or twice a month and just cannot stop myself.

I feel sick with shame and self hatred. How do I break the cycle? I feel like each time I do it, a little bit of my soul dies, but at the time I think it's fine.

I feel like my friends and family think I'm a pathetic mess, with no self control, and am just a fat embarrassment.

I'm letting my husband and son down too.

Where do I start? Who can I talk to?

[0phelia]

There may be a service called "Lifeline" in your area, they can offer alcohol / drug / addiction support. You don't necessarily need to be addicted to receive help.

You can go in for an assessment and they may also have a chat.

[LIZS]

AA? Tbh it sounds as if you can't have even one drink if it sets off a binge.

[Ladywithababy1]

Thank you. Yes I agree that I think I need to stop completely. I can't feel like this anymore, it's destroying me. I did try counselling for a few months but found that he focused in on my eating more than my drinking which I do agree is also a problem, but I feel is less destructive than the drinking.

Are there any self help things I can try?

[OnceMoreIntoTheBleach]

Jason Vale's book 'kick the drink easily' did it for me. I was drinking a bottle of wine a night and more at weekends, and when out for the evening, always made a fool of myself in some way or other.

I was a fairly heavy drinker for years. Never had more than one or two sober days in a row, and they were rare.

Tried dry January this year and failed because of birthdays etc. Did 2 separate weeks but found them really hard.

Then 2 weeks ago I read this book and I haven't had a drink since, and crucially, haven't missed it! I actually feel really good, healthy and empowered by it.

Give it a try

I've also now read a second similar book by Craig Beck, called 'alcohol lied to me'.

I also regularly read sober blogs liked sobermummy and follow soberiatas on Facebook. It's amazing how joining the 'new wave' of sobriety feels like joining a cool new club

The key to it all is to wake up to the fact that alcohol does you no favours, so it's not something you're 'giving up', it's something poisonous that you are kicking out of your life for good reason.

Good luck!

[OnceMoreIntoTheBleach]

Jason Vale's book 'kick the drink easily' did it for me. I was drinking a bottle of wine a night and more at weekends, and when out for the evening, always made a fool of myself in some way or other.

I was a fairly heavy drinker for years. Never had more than one or two sober days in a row, and they were rare.

Tried dry January this year and failed because of birthdays etc. Did 2 separate weeks but found them really hard.

Then 2 weeks ago I read this book and I haven't had a drink since, and crucially, haven't missed it! I actually feel really good, healthy and empowered by it.

Give it a try

I've also now read a second similar book by Craig Beck, called 'alcohol lied to me'.

I also regularly read sober blogs liked sobermummy and follow soberiatas on Facebook. It's amazing how joining the 'new wave' of sobriety feels like joining a cool new club

The key to it all is to wake up to the fact that alcohol does you no favours, so it's not something you're 'giving up', it's something poisonous that you are kicking out of your life for good reason.

Good luck!

[PlugUgly]

Me too! Jason Vales book has set me free!!!!
I was drinking TWO bottles of wine per night and was full of self loathing, my children had lost all respect for me and I was in despair,
I am coming up to 3 years without drinking now and I could not be happier, I couldn't imagine life without booze and now I can't imagine life with it!

[Amyp1981]

I'm giving this book a try. Thankyou! X

[BigFatBollocks]

Hi,

Is there anyone about who can do me a link to the latest dry thread? I'm new to mn and I can't even suss out how to start my own thread to ask (sorry to barge in on this thread to ask .

I've tried searching it too but nothing comes up.

Many thanks.