Having 5 friends over for dinner. 3 moderate drinkers, DH lightweight, me teetotal, and two friends with quite bad alcohol problems. Small town, everyone knows about both friends' alcohol issues, though we dont habitually discuss them.
Just wondering if we should try to tactfully warn friend 1 that friend 2 is also coming to dinner and thus the alcohol will probably be flowing rather freely?
With friend 1 (who doesn't discuss it, still drinks "secretly" and is supposedly dry, though we all know she isn't) we normally get round the issue by not offering alcohol at all. Typically she doesn't put herself in the path of alcohol if she can avoid it.
Friend 2 is still in the almost-daily binge drinking stage, not interested in getting help. However, him feeling less isolated is a step in the right direction - thus getting him to join the group we have over for dinner fairly frequently (we all do an activity together, and we all get on with him very well, so it makes sense for him to be invited anyway). He is likely to come to dinner equipped with several bottles and probably drink the lot (and get driven home by another friend).
Should I say anything in advance? Should we not invite both friend 1 and friend 2 together? Or just let it happen, say nothing, and hope it's not too hard for friend 1?
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Dinner party: inviting 2 friends round who each have alcohol issues... bad idea?
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magnificatAnimaMea · 08/03/2016 01:55
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