I drink a bottle of wine every day and can't seem to stop

(234 Posts)
felttippens Sun 28-Jun-15 10:41:50

The days that I try not to do it im left feeling very lost and depressed.

It is making me fat, lethargic and rubbish

Tips please of how to get this dreadful habit in check - Id like to still enjoy wine but at a less destructive/more sociable level

I don't drink anything other than wine really- if I have a lager or something I don't feel compelled to drink more but one glass of wine and before I know it ive finished the bottle

Help!

TheHouseOnBellSt Sun 28-Jun-15 14:54:05

My DH was like this...he has managed to stop entirely. He did it by changing his whole diet...he gave up sugar and processed foods first...then he tried his best to avoid the wine...only buying organic wine...which is hard to get where we live.

Gradually he's become non dependent and now hasn't had more than one beer at a time and certainly not daily, for more than a year.

Wolfiefan Sun 28-Jun-15 14:56:48

You need to seek help to stop drinking. Contact GP?

felttippens Mon 29-Jun-15 17:49:57

Did it again yeaterday (probably) added up to more than a bottle - woke up loathing myself for doing it again

TheHouseOnBellSt Mon 29-Jun-15 19:35:45

Go to the doctor or look on mumsnet for the Brave Babes Battle Bus in relationships. It's a supportive thread for those who have a problem with alcohol.

Timetoask Mon 29-Jun-15 19:51:30

Maybe it's time to visit the AA?

Baddz Mon 29-Jun-15 20:07:33

My bil was like this.
He had a stroke in March aged 38.
Please get some help.
Go and see your gp and good luck x

CantAffordtoLive Sat 05-Sep-15 09:14:04

How are you doing OP?

I am the same. I finally asked for help after struggling and failing for months.
Basically, all the reasons/excuses/justifications I used to use don't work any more. I am incredibly happy. I have no sorrows to drown. But alcohol has been my best friend for years and it is difficult to give it up. But I am trying. I am into week two of cutting back.

WasWats Mon 12-Oct-15 16:36:08

How are you now?

Ebayer81 Wed 14-Oct-15 21:24:02

I wasn't a bottle (except night outs and weekends where it would be lots over a bottle) but over half a bottle a night.

I won't lie - it was hard to cut down. But now I don't drink in the house except for maybe a Friday night and when I go out.

I feel so much better for it.

I also know two or three friends who struggle with this two - two of them having a bottle a night like you.

What has helped me -

* Focus on that grotty feeling you have on a morning. I would be better as the day wore on, not with a hangover a such, but def grotty.
* Compare said grotty feeling with nice bright feeling you get without.
* Diet lemonade in a wine glass. It IS a habit. I wouldn't even fancy drinking sometimes but then when I had the first few sips I was on my way and wanted more. The diet lemonade trick gives you something to sip.
* Ride the waves of cravings until they decrease and once again think of grottiness and they do subside. A trigger for me is having a nice chat with DH on sofa, enjoying myself - I just want to reach for the wine and increase the enjoyment! But just hang in there and the creast will fall away and you'll be back to enjoying your diet lemonade.
* Thinking of my looks. My face looks generally more haggard the morning after - no doubt. Puffy eyes are the worst for me.

Hope that helps!

Ebayer81 Wed 14-Oct-15 21:29:00

Too too!

Justgetknitting Sat 17-Oct-15 03:07:43

i stopped about six months ago, I joined Weight Watchers the points scared me into not drinking smile 30 points a day 6 in a glass of wine :0

I can generally say I feel so much better! My skin is better, my eyes, my teeth (red wine is my wine of choice) I don't get that's horrible ugggh it's morning feeling, I used to get pain in my joints think I'm slightly allergic I have more money! I feel happier and calmer

I will ever ugggh it's morning tomorrow as have awful insomnia that is driving me slightly nuts! After I spent last night drunk first time in ages, and I have been miserable all day and a horrible cow to my DP.

Yup best thing I've ever done is knock the wine on the head.

Justgetknitting Sat 17-Oct-15 03:10:22

Drinks in wine glass is a good tip too, I do the same... I make myself non-alcoholic cocktails too from time to time as well or drink tonic water for some reason tonic water makes me feel like I'm having a "drink/treat" it works for me

cherrytreeblossom Thu 19-Nov-15 22:20:54

Hi I'm the op in a different name I came on here with exactly the same question and forgot that I'd posted this the last time I was panicking about

I did manage to cut down a little but for the last few weeks back to bottle a day sad

quicklydecides Thu 19-Nov-15 22:25:16

Does it cause you problems? Do you live with anyone else?

cherrytreeblossom Mon 23-Nov-15 13:23:40

It causes me problems in that I hate myself for it every day and spend most of my days feeling ok but slightly foggy

Caramelslice Fri 04-Dec-15 12:38:04

Hello,
I am really struggling with alcohol too, I've just started a blog about it (only two posts so far), but I would love it if you would take a look and maybe leave a comment? It's at:

callinglastorders.blogspot.co.uk/

Thanks.

Dogwalks2 Thu 17-Dec-15 09:01:40

love your blog, I'm also planning on going for it in 2016 after many many years of drinking. Keep writing and good luck

Caramelslice Sun 27-Dec-15 22:43:51

Thanks Dogwalker. I've only just seen that you replied. Where are you with it now?

OP are you getting any closer to stopping? If you're serious, perhaps we both could? I've been drinking every day, sometimes taking sleeping pills to minimise the impact on sleep. This is not sustainable. It feels like it's snowballing.

I am reading about sobriety a lot, thinking about why I drink and why I want to stop. In short, it is super fun, but not worth it anymore. It makes me feel shit about myself in a number of different ways. And I want to like myself full-time.

I keep thinking that I'll give up on 1st Jan, as I can't imagine NYE Sober... But maybe I should just stop now. Thinking ahead like that doesn't help... I can examine why I think I need to drink that day closer to the time....

If anyone is out there, I'm promising not to drink tomorrow. OP? If you are out there will you come and check on me? I'll be so pleased with myself tomorrow night, it'd be nice to tell someone.

ZadokTheBeastie Sun 27-Dec-15 22:48:52

Caramel I'm listening - I'll check on you tomorrow, good luck. I feel just like you.

Caramelslice Sun 27-Dec-15 22:54:11

Zadok - that's so brilliant. Thank you. I feel so much braver knowing someone is there. I am definitely not drinking tomorrow. Thank you.

Floralnomad Sun 27-Dec-15 22:55:15

I don't drink and am happy to check in on this thread to encourage those of you that want to stop . We have a family history of alcoholism on my mothers side of the family , fortunately not my mother ,and growing up with an alcoholic ,pub landlady grandmother was enough to put me off drinking . Good luck with tomorrow caramel

ZadokTheBeastie Sun 27-Dec-15 22:56:02

Will you be at work? I mean are you 'safe' during the day (IYSWIM)?

calzone Sun 27-Dec-15 23:00:17

I drank a lot......couldn't put the bottle away.

Am practically teetotal now.

I just stopped. Did dry January which became dry February etc etc until I did a year.
Joined SW in January and have lost 3 stone.

You can do it. Just don't buy it for a start.

Chopz Sun 27-Dec-15 23:02:19

Can you try having your first glass later in the day?

When do you usually pour a glass for yourself? What's happening?

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