We're adopting a 10 month old boy - what do we need to buy?!

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HGrace Sun 01-Jun-14 15:44:37

Hi I'm new to mumsnet. We've been matched with a 10 month old boy and he's moving in in about a month's time! We're starting from scratch...what are the must-haves for looking after a boy of his age? Any top-tips for making things simpler also appreciated!

Livvylongpants Sun 01-Jun-14 16:05:38

Cot
Puschair
Clothing (bodysuits, outfits, pjs)
Highchair
Toys (fisher price and vtech do good annoying toys lol)
Stairgates
Bedding
Car seat (probably still in group 0 car seat?)

Livvylongpants Sun 01-Jun-14 16:06:48

Something like a jumperoo or activity station is not a necessity but is very handy
Nappies
Wipes
Changing bag
Bottles
Steriliser
Dummies?
Socks, hats

BikeRunSki Sun 01-Jun-14 16:09:11

Nightlight too
Is he walking do you know? Wellies if he is!
Do you know his weight? At 10 months he could be ready for a Group 1 car seat. It's an expensive mistake if you get the wrong size!
Sun hat, uv suit, sunscreen

Livvylongpants Sun 01-Jun-14 16:09:13

I've got an 8 month old (plus a 2 year old) so writing down everything I have lol)

Toy storage - your house will soon be overrun its like toysrus here

Done sort of bath seat

Baby foody bits.

Livvylongpants Sun 01-Jun-14 16:10:49

I think most group 0 eg maxi cosi can go up to 15 months? That's what age I moved mine out and they were big babies.
I presume you can ask FC what size clothes and seat he needs

Livvylongpants Sun 01-Jun-14 16:11:53

And a good camera to start taking family photos :D

Pr1mr0se Sun 01-Jun-14 16:15:42

Some ideas:
Stair gate - I'd expect a 10 month old to be crawling (or even starting to totter) so a stair gate might be necessary.
Car seat.
Sort out a routine that works for you - it will help him settle if he knows what to expect from day to day.
Don't introduce lost of new friends within the first few weeks. There will be enough new/ change to get used too without additional new faces.
Toys - I would get some soft toys that can be part of the bed time routine.
Board books - some simple ones you can read to him (time on lap reading to him will help you bond too).
You've probably got this bit but just in case - Nappies, shampoo etc, Blanket/ bedding.
A good idea to still get a baby monitor (one such as BT with lights and music is a great resource).
Do your research on local toddler / baby events so that you can do some socialising (both you and him). Do it now whilst you have time to look.
Mumsnet, library or even a google 'toddler events + your location' should come up with plenty of ideas. You can then start going when you are both used to each other. It's normal for people with new borns to not socialise much for at least six weeks after the birth so don't assume it will necessarily be any different for you. Expect to feel knackered, is what I'm really saying!

Happy for you to message me if you have any questions.

WhyBeHappyWhenYouCouldBeNormal Sun 01-Jun-14 16:18:50

A sling! Wrap style like papoozle, Perfect for clingy babies, bonding and attachment stuff but means you can still get on with stuff.

Livvylongpants Sun 01-Jun-14 16:18:56

Have a stock of his usual formula and foods he's known to like, maybe buy some of the sane toys he has at FC to make transition easier (my friend adopted at 12 months and did all tgese

HGrace Sun 01-Jun-14 16:19:00

Wow - fantastic! Thank you soooo much for your suggestions! It helps to get us up to speed with what's about to happen. Livvy - what a star you are! Really appreciate the time you've taken to add to our list!

Livvylongpants Sun 01-Jun-14 16:19:50

Ah yes, ring slings are great for easy up and down and keeping baby close, we have one for DS.

Lenny lamb and little frog to nice ones quite cheaply, great for bonding

PicaK Sun 01-Jun-14 16:20:35

Fisher price garage. Big enough for him to stand up and hold unlike the elc tiny one.

Fisher price walker.

ELC cars.

They'll keep him happy. Think about making nappy changes as quick as possible and easy to do one handed (you'll need the other one to pin him down!)

Feeding chair with secure straps - if he's a list be wire who likes to throw himself from side to side (like my ds)

See if there are any NCT sales on in your area as you'll get some real bargains (if you offer to help you'll get in for the preview shop). You can never have too many stair gates! (NCT are for parents of kids up to 1000 days old so you could join a local committee - good way to immerse yourself in this new world.

Buy about 4 sippy cups. Better to have too many than too few. Set up basket/bag in car for nappy change stuff. That way you only need to carry 1-2 nappies, 1 pack wipes and sudocreme in a tube in your bag. Look where you put your bag when you come in the house. It needs a spot so it's in view and you remember to replenish stocks before you go out.

Buy small containers for all the bits of food you need. One for cutup grapes, one for bits of cheese etc etc.

Look for classes, baby groups with plenty of opportunity to crawl, toddle and move around. The more active the better.

He'll be big enough to sit in a push trike - the more you spend the easier they are to push - good if you plan lots of walks round the park.

Hope that helps.

Pr1mr0se Sun 01-Jun-14 16:20:39

You don't need a changing bag specifically if you don't already have one - just a big bag with some pockets/ zipped sections to help you find stuff.

Oh and some advice since you asked - when changing a nappy for a boy, put a tissue over him straight away as they have the habit of weeing the moment you undo the nappy and you could get wee in your eye (or worse). Hint of fresh air = wee opportunity!

Get lots of packs of wipes in so you have them to hand in several rooms of the house. You'll find they are useful for everything.

HGrace Sun 01-Jun-14 16:22:15

WhyBe - Love the idea of a sling! Can you still use a sling at 10 months?

Livvylongpants Sun 01-Jun-14 16:22:19

No worries Hgrace

But definatly try and find out information from FC so you don't waste money buying wrong sizes or food he doesn't like.

Oh and a baby first aid kit (thermometer, nail clippers etc)

Always handy to have calpol / nurofen for babies abd teething gel incase of temperatures and teething :F

thenortheastslinglibrary.weebly.com/babywearing-blog/category/adoption

For info on slings if you were interested! Congratulations grin

PicaK Sun 01-Jun-14 16:23:43

That should read live wire.

And little boys' tackle POINTS DOWN in the nappy.

Ooh, cross posts! Can definitely use at 10 months - I still carry my 2.6 year old!

If there is a sling library near you they will be able to help.

Livvylongpants Sun 01-Jun-14 16:24:48

Most woven ring slings or a mei tei type carrier will all be fine for 10 months, lots of people I know have carried up to she 4, there are Facebook groups to buy second habd

Livvylongpants Sun 01-Jun-14 16:26:31

Surocrem or similar for nappy rash

Sorry to keep filling up the page I keep remembering things lol

BertieBotts Sun 01-Jun-14 16:29:20

WRT a car seat, I'd get a convertible one like the Britax First Class. That way you can use it rear facing for now, which is safer, and then it will last until he's around 4 years old. I think it would be pointless to get one of the infant carry seats, it would weigh a ton! Not so bad when you start with a newborn and work up to it grin

You can use slings right up to toddler age. I recommend getting a larger sized one. The Boba 3G is excellent.

Caffeinated drinks and chocolate. You're about to exist off a lot less sleep smile

crashboombang Sun 01-Jun-14 16:30:33

A really good sling ( not the type you can buy on high street)

At 10mths I'd buy an extended rearfacing car seat. Www.rearfacing.co.uk

HGrace Sun 01-Jun-14 16:30:34

Fantastic advice Primrose and Picak...and much appreciated! Keep it coming if you think of anything else... I'm glad I asked smile

crashboombang Sun 01-Jun-14 16:31:33

Agree a boba3g or a tula.

pleaseaffixstamps Sun 01-Jun-14 16:32:11

Picture books!

Muslins. A pack of these from mothercare will be so useful: wiping faces, being used as a bib, sunshade over the pushchair, etc etc. They last forever, so when your kid gets older, you can tie one around his neck when he's eating spaghetti!

Good luck OP, and enjoy your son.

WhyBeHappyWhenYouCouldBeNormal Sun 01-Jun-14 16:32:30

Papoozle slings are designed for up to 2 years old - 10 months no problem!

HGrace Sun 01-Jun-14 16:34:11

Thanks for the link about slings Pottering...I'll take a look now!

beccajoh Sun 01-Jun-14 16:35:15

Wheat wonderful news! Bet you're so excited!

Non slip mat for the bath
Baby toiletries - toothbrush, toothpaste, shampoo. (There's much nicer stuff than Johnsons available).

Livvylongpants Sun 01-Jun-14 16:37:43

Normal bibs, dribble bibs

morethanpotatoprints Sun 01-Jun-14 16:38:38

I have nothing to add to your list but would like to say congratulations and good luck.
What you are doing is truly amazing and I wish you all the happiness in the world.

I think some of those clay hand prints would be a lovely keepsake, ok you won't have them from birth but if your ds is anything like me he will be so pleased he has some baby memories.
Stupid I know, but it always bothered me that I had nothing from being born. Mum and Dad kept lots of things from when they adopted me and it made the world of difference when older.
I hope this helps a bit thanks

jonicomelately Sun 01-Jun-14 16:43:22

Brilliant. Nothing to add to others' suggestions but I have two DS and they were ace at 10 months. Having said that they get better with age too! Be prepared because boys get very obsessed with things. We've had Thomas the tank Engine, Ben 10, Power Rangers, Match Attax, Football, Rugby and Cricket. It could be anything though. Maybe yours will be able to spot the make of a car from half a mile away!
Best of luck and enjoy grin

ShineSmile Sun 01-Jun-14 16:45:08

Fisher price walker -DD loves hers
Toys
Books
Ball
Teething stuff - like gel, powder, and teethers
Clothes and changing stuff
Pushchair and highchair
Bibs
Baby food or finger foods
Baby food snacks

KristinaM Sun 01-Jun-14 16:45:53

Don't buy many toys, you will get given lots. Ditto clothes. Wait and see what he brings with him from the FC

Make sure he's not over stimulated -moving to yours will be very stressful and upsetting to him, he doesn't need lots of noisy busy toys too .

You don't need lots of formula, he'll soon be one. But you need bottles ( even if he's off them at the FC ) as they are good for bonding.

Car seat -find out what kid he uses at FC . You need the kind that can be rear facing now and forward facing later. If you have two cars you need one for each, they are very heavy to move.

( You need to be care ful of your back, as you haven't had months to get used to carry a smaller then bigger baby . )

Bedding -you might get given some by FC, or you can offer to give her some new stuff in exchange for hers. Use the same laundry powder and conditioner -smell is very important to babies .

Don't take him to any baby /toddler groups or classes -he needs to bond with you. He need quiet days at home with mum ( and/or dad ) and lots of routine. Very few visitors ( close friends and family only ) .

Bathing -get FC to show you how she does it and do the same. Don't buy mats /seats until you have spoken to her

ShineSmile Sun 01-Jun-14 16:46:21

Definitely look into local groups, baby and toddler groups that you can go both go to. You'll both want to get out,

KristinaM Sun 01-Jun-14 16:51:59

If you have a local library, don't buy any picture books. Trip to library is ideal quiet activity for you and baby.

Go easy on the DVDs /TV watching as well. Fine for a bio child who has had more than a year to bond to his parents. Not for a newly adopted baby. It's too stimulating and stressful .

KristinaM Sun 01-Jun-14 16:54:10

Just to reinterate -no to toddler groups for newly adopted child , at least for the first 6 months.

The posters who are suggesting this mean well I'm sure, but they are speaking from their experience of giving birth to a newborn, not adopting a 10 month old ( in fact will be nearly one when you bring him home )

crashboombang Sun 01-Jun-14 16:57:14

True hence why I've not recommended sling meet.

MamaDoGood Sun 01-Jun-14 16:58:59

How exciting !
Probably feels a bit overwhelming but, all he really needs is feeding, warmth and love.
Everything else will fall into place !
And the gifts.... Lots and lots of gifts smile

BertieBotts Sun 01-Jun-14 17:09:24

If you have a local sling meet it might be an idea to go before he comes as you can usually try things out with a weighted doll. At 10 months he'll still be small enough to go on your front to begin with but it might be difficult to get him on your back. Smaller babies lie still and older ones hold on. At his age they tend to panic and shriek a lot which makes you panic! I would recommend a normal sling, either a structured one like the Boba or Patapum (make sure you buy toddler size) or a Mei Tai for going on your front now and your back later, and a ring sling or something like the Babasling (which I usually hate) for hip carries which you can scoot around onto your back to get him used to the idea of back carrying before he gets to tall to see over on your front!

If adopted children find groups etc hard at first then I would say go with the simplest sling you can find unless you have a "sling consultant" near you who will come and do a one to one. There's no point spending out a lot on something you can't use, but slings are great and should really help attachment. At 10 months though you can't use the ones from Mothercare, John Lewis etc as they just won't be supportive enough.

PicaK Sun 01-Jun-14 17:46:02

KristinaM is right - I have a birth ds so I could be giving bad advice about groups. Is that standard advice? I wouldn't have coped with no groups at that stage for a week - let alone 6 months. Is making me think.

KristinaM Sun 01-Jun-14 17:55:42

Pica -the no groups thing is standard advice for adopted children , who have all been traumatised by several moves of carer. Not remotely applicable to birth children, don't worry !

Slings will be wonderful for attachment if your back can cope. I guess you will have to build up time in the sling, because you don't have the luxury of starting with an 8lb er . Though hopefully the assessment, approval and matching won't have the same effect on your back as pregnancy and breast feeding!

Greythorne Sun 01-Jun-14 18:03:28

I would say don't buy a lot in advance.

You really don't know what you will need. If he is crawling, pulling up, close to walking, you will need to toddler-proof your place so you can relax with him at home. If he is not really mobile at all, it will be a different ball game.

Agree on the formula. Really not necessary for a nearly one year old, although you will want to continue the same brand of formula as the FC uses for a while for continuity. Don't get too caught up in the "normal" milestones such as no bottles beyond age one. Your bonding with the baby via lovely cosy bottle feeding is more important than some guidance regarding milk from bottles potentially damaging teeth.

I would agoid buying all toys, especially electronic ones / vTech ones. They will annoy the hell out of you during a time which might potentially be stressful, they are not educational and you will want to spend lots and lots of close time with your baby. You won't be wanting to "distract" him with gadgets, you will want to forge your own special relationship with him over time.

Sling is a great plan. Better than pram for bonding, but at nearly one if he's not used to it, it might be hard. Make sure you get a really decent sling. I used a Baby Buddha sling and loved it (had three in the end!) but the choice of sling is a very personal one. Lots of people swear by the Ergo for bigger babies, it's more like a rucksack than a soft sling, but might suit a one year old just starting to be worn.

Congratulations.

Greythorne Sun 01-Jun-14 18:04:13

www.babybuddha.ca

These slings were fab.

pleaseaffixstamps Sun 01-Jun-14 18:04:18

If you have a local library, don't buy any picture books. Trip to library is ideal quiet activity for you and baby.

Argh, no! Both! If you can afford it, picture books at home are great, as well as picture books in the library! My DS had both - loved the library, but loved his favourite books at home, too. He kept his favourite picture books to read as well as proper novels well past the time when he would have taken them out of the library!

Money spent on books - if you are able to - is never money wasted.

I don't know about other sling consultants, but I know in the north east our local lovely lady will do home visits for adoptive parents so they can have all the advice without needing to visit the library / attend sling meets etc.

MaryWestmacott Sun 01-Jun-14 18:05:16

It might be worth finding out where he's up to developmentally if you can, some are walking by 10 months, some are only just crawling. At DC1's 1st birthday party there were some from my NCT group who were walking, some only just bum shuffling.

Baby proof your kitchen/bathroom/life anyway! Get on your hands and knees, look round, what's at your eye level you can see. Remember, a toilet brush is just about the most interesting thing in the world... (second only to the sky remote)

Re the sling, it might also be worth asking if he's been in one before, not all DCs like them by that age, if he's not been in a sling, it might be a waste of money to try to get him in one. (and he'll be heavy, so make sure it's one that spreads the weight well)

Also the bedding, some DCs like sheets and old fashioned bedding, some like sleeping bags, personally I'd go for the bags, but if he's not used to them, it might be a problem. Black out blinds for his room is a very good idea.

Dummies, bottles, sterliser (get a cheap tommy tippy microwave one, you won't be using it for long) formula (find out what he's currently using). Yes, they don't really need formula after 12 months, but I think for 'comfort' it might be worth keeping as much 'normal' as possible.

Have you got a changing bag? (worth spending a bit more, it'll be your handbag for the next 18months after all...) Nappies, wipes, put wipes in every room...

Stair gates (DD was climbing stairs at 11months, a lot can do it before then, either way, you've not got long!)

Buggy wise, I would aim for rear facing, particularly given you're going to want to be making sure you get lots of eye contact and can 'chat' as you're walking along.

MaryWestmacott Sun 01-Jun-14 18:08:21

oh and toys wise, you'll be getting your little boy in the summer, I'd say if you have space for it in your garden, a sandpit and/or water table would be good, a crawl tunnel, a bubble machine.

HGrace Sun 01-Jun-14 18:11:15

I really can't believe how generous you have all been with your advice and suggestions! I can't thank you all enough. It's really helping me to get into 'the zone' and to think about what needs thinking about!!!! What stars you are smile

HGrace Sun 01-Jun-14 18:12:16

As a result of what some of you have suggested I think I have settled on a Boba 3g sling...unless any of you know different?? eg is it worth paying extra for the Boba 4g?

BertieBotts Sun 01-Jun-14 18:14:48

Oh I don't know, it was the 2G in my time! I expect the newer one is more supportive but wouldn't really know. I expect there will be comparison videos on youtube, that seems to be the done thing these days.

If you're in the Midlands I know of a sling consultant who would probably do a home visit.

keepyourchinupdear Sun 01-Jun-14 18:27:16

Congratulations! smile

I'd second keeping baby on bottles - if they comfort him then there's really no harm done - just make sure you brush his teeth after his last feed. An infant's sucking reflex only disappears when adult teeth come through. Continuing to suck has shown to be good for neural development. Cosy milky feeds are the best and fantastic for bonding. He may prefer formula to cow's milk. Perhaps get some 1yr+ milk in his usual brand.

Some board books would be good, a buggy board too. Ds loved Organix gingerbreadmen biscuits at that age. A few new toys chosen by you & dh. A fisher-price walker (that baby pushes along) might be a good idea. Photo album & camera.

Best of luck xx

MaryWestmacott Sun 01-Jun-14 18:27:34

Just thought about the little things you will need - Calpol! And baby nurofen.

toothbrush and milk teeth toothpaste, baby shampoo.

A thermometer, baby nail clippers, baby soft hairbrush.

bibs with sleeves like this although you can normally pick them up cheaper in the supermarkets.

keepyourchinupdear Sun 01-Jun-14 18:28:50

P.S. I found a baby carrier much easier too use than a sling.

keepyourchinupdear Sun 01-Jun-14 18:29:28

Soft sponge and mild soap

EvilHerbivore Sun 01-Jun-14 18:39:54

I agree, calpol and metanium, possibly some teething stuff too, not the sort of thing to realise you need and not have to hand!

Other than that, I echo what everyone else has said - milk, bottles, steriliser if needed, nappies, wipes, clothes, somewhere to sleep, a few toys and books, pram and/or sling, camera...

Good luck!

ToddleWaddle Sun 01-Jun-14 18:49:58

Sleeping bags if used to instead of blankets.
Hooded towel useful and cute after baths and swimming
Baby monitor
Night light.
Second a car seat like britax two way elite or britax dualfix which is suitable from birth to 4 years.
Ergo baby buckle carrier great too.

Saltedcaramel2014 Sun 01-Jun-14 18:52:49

Congratulations! You must be very excited. I think people have covered the basics, sorry if I'm repeating:

Highchair - £12 ikea one is great, v easy to clean
Gro bags - sleeping bags for baby as still too young for duvet etc.
'That's not my monkey etc' board books, and touch and feel books, bath books
Maybe some musical toys? Early learning centre do good ones
A comforter - soft fabric/bunny etc good to get them attached to something
White noise app on your phone/Euan the sheep - can help with sleep (though don't expect miracles...!)

10 month olds vary so much in weight, I was really keen to keep on slinging but my boy got too heavy (98 centile), sling library might be a good idea so you can try out one first.

Let us know how it goes.

Saltedcaramel2014 Sun 01-Jun-14 18:55:18

Might be worth investing in a digital thermometer - really clear

MrsM2509 Sun 01-Jun-14 18:58:58

Parent facing pushchair?

Parsnipcake Sun 01-Jun-14 19:02:04

Some great suggestions, but as a foster carer I would recommend finding out what he will bring - my babies tend to take a couple of carloads! Babies are all different, some like jump stood some don't etc, so find out before you buy. I would stick to buying the basics and bits that you like smile, we have 24 hour supermarkets and you can buy things as you need them, and a trip to the supermarket can be fun for a 10 month old!

As for routines, I would stick with his existing routine at first, and then change it when he is settled. Familiar toys and clothes will comfort him at first, by Christmas he will be ready for spoiling!

crashboombang Sun 01-Jun-14 19:02:12

I'd recommend checking with his foster carers what his favourite bath products etc are. Does he prefer strawberry or orange favoured medicine?

Mirror for the car seat if you are keeping him rearfacing. This is one area where I honestly believe if he has been forward facing putting him rearfacing will be fine.

MaryWestmacott Sun 01-Jun-14 19:22:06

Another as the time if year he's arriving, high factor sunscreen!

A sunshade for the buggy as well.

And as this will be a British summer you are becoming a mother in, a waterproof coat with a hood for yourself (pushing a buggy uphill in the rain and holding an umbrella is tricky, hoods are the way forward!)

Trollsworth Sun 01-Jun-14 19:25:35

Bath toys and a bag of ball pit balls (because they're nice and light for when you catch one to the eye)

slithytove Sun 01-Jun-14 19:40:06

You have had lots of great suggestions so I won't add to them, but wanted to say congratulations, I'm really happy for you smile

slithytove Sun 01-Jun-14 19:50:17

Changed my mind smile

Baby first aid kit - calpol, thermometer, bonjela, ibuprofen, plasters, nasal spray, cough syrup

Changing bag and contents - nappies (prob size 4 or 5, Aldis are great), wipes, nappy bags, bum cream. Baby sun lotion. You get a nice free changing bag if you join boots baby club and it's still going strong for us.

Baby plates, bowls, cutlery, cups. IKEA do nice ones and tommee tippee cups are nice.

High chair (ikea again)

Bottles, maybe one tin of formula if he hasn't been weaned off it yet. Other wise blue cows milk. Milton sterilising tablets if he is still on formula.

Changing mat

Cot, mattress (needs to be new) fitted sheets, mattress protector, light blanket or sleeping bag in this weather

Group 1 car seat. We have gone for the maxi cost axis as can't afford rear facing

Buggy - we have two, a big travel system (Quinny buzz) and a more compact umbrella stroller for holidays (Chicco something). Start a new thread for buggy advice smile

We don't use anything in the bath other than toys and shampoo, he uses our towels etc

A few toys - don't go mad! DS's favourite is a wooden Noah's ark, and tomy hide and squeak eggs. Other than that, lots of cups/bowls, our phones/remotes/keys grin

Clothes - agree to wait and see what you get, but about 7 vests, 5 sleepsuits, a couple of pairs of pants and a few tops should see you right. Socks and a sunhat too. Bibs are always handy at this age.

Find out what food he likes but I would have thought he is feeding himself a bit at this age, google blw for food ideas.

I hope that helps! A month is plenty of time. I will keep posting if I remember stuff.

wonderpants Sun 01-Jun-14 19:52:49

My FC is a very similar age and about to move on. She has a load of toys/ jumperoo etc that will go with her, also a full wardrobe of clothes and bedding (recommended for familiarity). She hates slings (I have one), so I wouldn't recommend buying one until you know what he likes. We also don't use a cot mobile or light show. Try not to fit this baby into how you want it to be, as he will have his own clear preferences. Introduce changes slowly, his whole world is about to change. Are you able to chat to his foster Carer? They will know him best and be able to give you an idea!

I think you might need

Cot
Pushchair
Car seat/ sunblinds for car
High chair
Fire guard/ stair gates/ safety stuff
Nappies/ wipes (although I will send some as I don't need half used packets)
Formula (ditto, will send what I have left over as well as bottles and dummies)
Steriliser (if you want to use it)
Changing mat
Bath stuff
Calpol/ thermometer
Baby monitor

Very exciting times

yellowsnownoteatwillyou Sun 01-Jun-14 19:52:58

All the suggestions seem good, I have a just 10 month old ds, I carry him in a mai Thai, but he's been in a sling since birth, don't know how babies get on for new slinging.
Thou if you are confident putting him in it, he will feel better.
But any age of baby related question feel free to message me. wink
And good luck, they are tremendous fun at this age. grin

CinnamonPlums Sun 01-Jun-14 19:53:50

Congratulations!!!!

You've had loads of suggestions that are great. I'd recommend a rear facing buggy (sling is great but backs need a rest!). Try for one with big wheels rather than small, it will be easier to control with one hand when he wants to cuddle rather than ride.

If you can find a leapfrog musical soft cube they are IMHO the best musical toy!

Stabilo woody pencils are the best for little artists. They are expensive but my 6yo is still using the same ones she had at 1.

Artandco Sun 01-Jun-14 19:55:40

The boba 4g sling has foot straps for toddler use when on back which is main difference to you. Slings so handy for the 12-24 months especially as it's when they are too heavy to carry in arms for a while in places pram isn't useful ie on trains/ airports/ beach etc.. Also many will want to toddle for a while then carry so saves pushing empty pram once walking

I recommend the merino kids sleeping bags. They last 0-2 years and 2-4years and you don't need to change according to temp as the merino regulates. Sleeping bags good if they wake in night/ are ill as you can keep them warm. Also stops them climbing out of cot once bigger!

Cot bed rather than cot. Sides come off once older to turn to toddler bed until 5 ish years so lasts longer

Maybe buy a nice blanket for sofa big enough for you all to snuggle under

I wouldn't buy a steriliser at this age. He will already be licking toys off floor/ crawling in germs on floor etc so bottles fine in dishwasher/ hot soapy water in bowl washed. I also wouldn't buy baby bouncers etc, he will outgrow in weeks and will prefer being with you anyway

yellowsnownoteatwillyou Sun 01-Jun-14 20:06:54

Also aldi nappies are brilliant my ds is in 4.5 size,but he is pretty tall just not chubby, I'm sure the fc will tell you things. But as people have said asda is 24s and the little Angels nappies are good as well.

Poseypops Sun 01-Jun-14 20:09:11

Ball.
Ikea high chair.
Get next size up in clothes as well so your ready when he grows out of this size.
Paddling pool.
Bath mat.
Nice soft towels but not baby ones.
A taggie or teddy for him to attach too.
Music or lights for bedtime in his room.

ILickPicnMix Sun 01-Jun-14 20:20:24

Yes to a decent sling as many others have said, just wear it around the house for an hour at first and then build up more time so you get used to it.
Baby wipes x 100000000000 because you can use them to clean anything off anything.
And congratulations! 10 month old baby cuddles are amazing.
If you have a good friend or family member on standby to run to the shops for any things you have forgottern more baby wipes so you can get settled as a family then that's very helpful? You can thank them with wine a few weeks later.

HGrace Sun 01-Jun-14 22:53:19

Thank you all for your congratulations and best wishes. So much great advice and so many suggestions....I'm taking notes!

Chipandspuds Sun 01-Jun-14 23:15:48

Congratulations!

My baby list is something like this:

Sleeping
-cot or cot bed
-waterproof mattress sheets
-sheets
-cellular blankets or gro-bags
-some very soft teddies

Bathing/changing
-changing mat
-nappies
-wipes
-cotton wool balls (good for cleaning eyes - DS had a lot of eye infections)
-hairbrush
-nail clippers
-nappy cream - sudocrem is good
-sponge/flannel
-he's big enough not to 'need' a baby bath, but I'd probably get a non-slip bath mat to go in your bath
-shampoo if you want
-bubble bath if you want
-talcum powder if you want
-bath toys boats, different sized cups, squirty toys
-towels
-changing bag

Feeding
-Formula
-Bottles and teats
-Steriliser
-Bottle brush
-Sippy cups - I'd stick with the two handled basic tommee tippee one, they're really good
-bibs
-plastic plates, bowls and cups
-plastic knifes, forks and spoons
-high chair

Clothes
PJ's or babygrows
Vests (can sleep in just vests when weather is very hot)
Light trousers
Shorts
Long sleeve t-shirts
Short sleeve t-shirts
Cardigans/jumpers
Raincoat
Wellington boots
Sandals
Shoes
Sun hat

Misc
-sun cream
-calpol (always good to have in case of temperature and/or teething)
-teething gel
-thermometer
-pushchair
-car seat
-stair gates if you have stairs

Toys
-baby walker (even babies that can walk like to push around a baby walker still!)
-wooden bricks or megablocks
-musical toys
-cars and/or trains
-books 'Dear Zoo', 'The Hungry Caterpillar', 'Spot' are all popular and any books with pictures of other babies they seem to enjoy as well!
-nursery rhyme cd

I also second the suggestion of finding out what baby groups are on in your area, check your local Surestart centre, also quite a lot of churches have a baby/toddler group, our local library has a baby rhyme time and also a toddler story time session once a week. Check out any local indoor soft play centres and local swimming pool opening times. This is all stuff I wish I'd found earlier with DS!

Chipandspuds Sun 01-Jun-14 23:19:47

I forgot nappy sacks (you can get 300 for £1 in Tesco or some ridiculously cheap price), toothbrush and toothpaste he'll most like have a few teeth grin

SweetsForMySweet Sun 01-Jun-14 23:44:04

Congratulations on your new baby!

Nurofen and Calpol for babies, make sure to get the ones with syringe rather than spoons (it will say on the outside of the box) very handy for teething or if lo has a fall (happens a lot when they are in the wobbling stage)and it is a lot easier to use syringe than to stuggle with a spoon and a wriggly lo.
Teetha gel and or bonjella
Teething rings
Highchair with the stationary piece in the front (stops lo from sliding off)
Beaker/sippy cups
Bumper tape (to child proof sharp edges like cornors of table)
A jacket and hat
Socks with rubber grips (great when learning to walk before they are ready to be fitted for shoes)
Fireguard

slithytove Mon 02-Jun-14 00:09:41

Gro egg room thermometer! Best thing ever!

slithytove Mon 02-Jun-14 00:10:55

Seriously, I know I don't know you, but looking in on my little boy before I go to sleep, and I am so happy for you I could actually cry <hormonal> I don't know why!

Have the best time ever being a mummy smile

HGrace Mon 02-Jun-14 01:30:35

Hi Slithytove, bless you...thank you for your lovely message.

ikeaismylocal Mon 02-Jun-14 07:05:56

Congratulations! What an exciting time for you smile

My advice is buy about 20 packs of baby wipes, they will get used eventually and running out of baby wipes is not fun. Have one pack in each room, one under the pushchair one in the car, really useful for blowing his nose, cleaning the cafe floor after meals, cleaning sticky hands and the obvious bum cleaning.

I have a couple of slings and I do enjoy using them around the house, my ring sling is great for when ds wants cuddles but I need to make dinner. I find that I feel more connected with my ds when he is in his parent facing pushchair than when he is in the sling, especially when he's on my back. The great thing about parent facing pushchairs is that you can see what your child is looking at and how they are reacting to a situation and chat about that "yes, that's a very big yellow digger!" "don't worry that dog is big, but he looks friendly" at 10 months he's likely to be not saying alot and I found it hard to read ny child without seeing his facial expressions.

If he is used to swimming pools maybe a reusable swimming nappy, lovely chance for skin to skin, but avoid weekends, especially rainy weekends as it might be a bit manic.

We find our video monitor very useful, we used to have a sound monitor but the problem we had was we went in everytime he made a sound and we were actually waking him up, with tge video monitor we can check that he's ok/happy/not learnt to climb out of the cot without actually disturbing him.

I think 10 months is the time when babies development varies the most, some 10 month olds walk, say a couple of words, some 10 month olds are much more like little babies. Even if your ds isn't mobile yet I think it's never too early to put up safety gates/locks on draws and move dangerous things high up as the day they do become mobile you won't have time to do all the safety things as you'll be too busy chasing him around!

Take tons of photos, I always think a stage is going to last forever but things change so fast! I also write a monthly update for my ds, just a quick note of the new things he has learnt, the firsts and any funny stories. I really love reading these back and I think he'll enjoy them when he's older.

Best of luck!

ikeaismylocal Mon 02-Jun-14 08:17:48

2 last things!

Sun hats, buy 3 or 4 so you can keep one in the car/nappybag/pushchair if you can find them the ones which tie under the chin are good.

A year ticket to a local petting farm could be a nice coming home present, I found it nice to have somethingfun to do as another option to the park/shops. My experience is that tend to be pretty calm/quiet in the week.

KristinaM Mon 02-Jun-14 09:23:01

Good idea on baby wipes. You will need lots of packs, but don't buy any until you see what type the FC uses and if your child is allergic to them . Some have perfume which upsets sensitive skin

littlegreengloworm Mon 02-Jun-14 09:29:15

I haven't read through all of best but I would batch cook a lot of baby meals for him and freeze. That will free up your time for baby cuddles and no harm to cook some meals for the freezer for yourselves.

I would get a CD player and children's CDs. They are loved by my DS and he will become familiar with them.

I wouldn't buy the car seat until you find out his size so maybe you can contact someone, my 9month old is ready for next stage.

Oh, and huge congratulations flowers

Andcake Mon 02-Jun-14 09:39:32

Congratulations - thinking back to my ds about a year ago and his peers 10 months can vary a lot. So many great things mentioned things I think worth mentioning without re reading the whole tread
- see if you can get the same bottles as used by FC
- we use kiddicare.com for quick nappy delivery and wipes - cheap cheerful and arrives the next day - great when you don't know what you need
- baby sleeping bags are a joy - see if he has used them before but really practical
- toys my ds loved - elc red bus shape sorter, any car, a push along/pull along, fisherprice musical sea horse that he can learn to turn on himself to soothe at bedtime
-a picnic rug for sitting in the park
- a ball (or 4) ;-)

sure start centres are great but lots of nurserys do stay and play - see if your leisure center has baby swimming lessons

enjoy every moment ;-)

Pollaidh Mon 02-Jun-14 10:52:04

Congratulations!

Sling at 10 months? Depends on size/weight. My (weighty) baby has been in a backpack for about 3 months now!

Toys for this age: Musical instruments - drums, xylophone, shakers and bells.
Sensory ball - a rubber ball about 15 cm across with spikes which makes it easier to catch,
Stacking cups
Building blocks
Teethers like a Sophie Giraffe
Duplo popular here (though it says 2-5 years)
Chunky crayons (supervised use only!)
Car type electronic games that have big chunky steering wheel, buttons to press etc, makes car noises.
Books - Sandra Boynton books and the touch and feel, and lift the flap books about animals.
Bath toys - ducks, pourers etc.

You'll also be needing stairgates, a playpen (not for general use, just safety when you go to the loo or something), baskets/boxes to tidy toys into, soft tipped spoons, a Beaba babycook if you have money to burn, some sort of foam padding for floor if you have wooden floors, possibly a wooden walker full of bricks if he's close to walking, metanium for bad nappy rash, calpol, calprofen, teething gel, an electronic ear thermometer, high chair (I prefer the Stokke trip trap but it's a matter of taste and cost), sippy cups, open beakers and maybe a Doidy cup, bottles and steriliser (check what he's used to as teats vary, and you'll need size 3 teats at this age), sleeping bags in 2.5 tog (winter) and 1 tog (summer), muslins, lots of bibs for both feeding and dribble, a BrushBaby rubbery toothbrush/teether, 0-2 age toothpaste, vitamin drops.

I have a 9 month old. He's starting to cruise round furniture, crawls everywhere, sits, rolls etc. His main interests are electric cables and mobile phones, and radiator taps.

Artandco Mon 02-Jun-14 11:16:10

Poll - my 4 year old still fits in the boba sling on back if needed

Also you may not need many of these things so I would wait any see for many. Ie we have never had room thermometer just tell by body if rooms hot or cold. Never had playpen, walker, stair gates, plastic beakers, baby cook books etc.. So you can save lots if not needed

Kewcumber Mon 02-Jun-14 11:51:26

HGrace - DS was 11 months old when I met him and 13 months when he moved in with me.

I know this sounds obvious and perhaps less of an issue in this country particularly if he's been with one set a foster carers but check how big he is. DS was teeny tiny (premmie) and in 3-6 month clothes and was very delays so was really more of a 6 month old than a stereotypical 11 month old.

Sling was essential and very good for bonding in our case.

Don't start making and freezing food until you know what he's eating at FC's.

I think I still have a (huge) sling suitable for older baby/toddler and suitable for some one with a bad back buried somewhere if you live accessible to west London.

Check whether he uses sleeping bags - DS loved them as he was a wriggler.

Kewcumber Mon 02-Jun-14 11:52:37

Oh and brace yourself because adopting at this age feels like you start with a newborn who turns into a toddler within weeks!

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Sunflower6 Mon 02-Jun-14 21:50:41

I just wanted to say congratulations you must be so excited.

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