Hi!
So I really, really, really want a kid. But I'm transgender, so adoption is pretty much my only option- I'm fine with that and it's a non issue as I'd rather adopt anyway, this is just background info.
The thing is, I'm a child abuse survivor. Ran away (successfully) almost as soon as I turned 16 after a lifetime of physical and emotional abuse. As a result of this I have PTSD but I have done incredibly well for myself, by the time I was seventeen I had a secure, safe and happy home, an apprenticeship job, a close connection of friends who I now consider my family etc. I think a lot of people would have expected me to fall into alcohol and drugs but I never did, I kind of did the opposite. I'm incredibly transparent about being a survivor because I think there are a lot of us out there without people even realising the effect of their childhood. In short, I do still have PTSD but am living happily (and in a higher up job than an apprenticeship).
Based on this, does anyone know if this would affect my chances of adopting? Just by being a survivor myself? Or is this a positive as I'd have more of an idea of how to help a child if I adopted a kid who went through child abuse too? I'm terrified of being turned down, I want to be a parent so badly and I think it'd break my heart to not be able to have my own kid.
Any input is welcome x
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user1484066668 · 11/01/2017 23:08
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