An update on a post I made earlier in the year - I can't find the original link
my sister's (my only sibling) boyfriend had rejected my AD as he "finds ALL THIS (sister waves in direction of 9 month old AD) too difficult". They are childless, he wouldn't consider adoption as "couldn't love a child that wasn't his" and his niece was removed from his sister at birth due to her mental health (sister and boyfriend declined his sister begging them to adopt her child and have not had any contact with his niece since she was adopted around 10 years ago. The way my sister tells it, they felt it was unfair of his sister to even ask them).
Since adopting her almost 2 years ago he hasn't visited our house (my sister visited briefly once alone).
He didn't turn up to a xmas meet up last year (date and location chosen by my sister, just a brief coffee at half way point but apparently he needed to go shopping for a shirt for a night out). Previously we've always spent xmas or at least a day over xmas together with our parents and my children, big lunch, walk, party games and tea etc)
They did make it to AD's christening in the summer, but I'm not sure they interacted with AD and I think only attended because it would have been obviously odd (to the wider family and our parents) not to.
Since then, nothing, apart from xmas card this week saying "sorry we're unable to come to you on Boxing Day, thanks for the invitation, we hope you have a nice xmas".
They live half an hour away. I have no idea what my poor parents think (they're joining us for Boxing Day and will see my sister and her boyfriend a few days later. We haven't been invited).
I can't help it. I'm so hurt. Will I ever get over this? Does it get easier? BD (6) can't even remember her Aunt's name.. Just so sad that our relationship is over.
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Stevemcqueenlikesbeans · 20/12/2016 18:40
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