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ADM wants a second opinion

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user1471555041 Tue 06-Sep-16 21:52:08

We went to matching panel recently and were due to start introductions shortly. We received a call today from our SW advising that despite getting a unanimous yes at panel the ADM is seeking a second opinion. This is due to us going through a placement breakdown over a year ago due to negligence on the part of the placing authority. We feel utterly devestated that we are in this position. Hoping for the best but can't help but feel it's all going to go wrong again. Not really sure why I'm posting just need to vent.

flapjackfairy Tue 06-Sep-16 22:30:57

So sorry to here that you are in this position especially as you are so close to introductions. It is devastating to feel that you are having the rug pulled out from underneath you and there is nothing you can do about it.Personally I have found the whole adoption process to be incredibly frustrating as so often something that is so important to you and your family is completely out of your control. The fact that you got a unanimous yes must surely be a good sign and hopefully the adm is just covering their backs. There is little point in telling you not to worry as I am sure you will struggle to think of anything else but I hope they resolve it soon and you are able to move forward and meet your child/ren. I hope it helps to know that a lot of us going through the process understand how you feel and are sending you positive vibes. If you can please let us know how it is going and in the meantime stay strong and best of luck.

Italiangreyhound Tue 06-Sep-16 22:37:01

Thinking of you all.

GirlsWhoWearGlasses Wed 07-Sep-16 06:54:38

Absolutely fine to vent here.

What a rotten position to be in, and after you've already been through so much.

Wishing you all the best.

jimbob1 Wed 07-Sep-16 07:20:34

flowers for you.

Hels20 Wed 07-Sep-16 13:16:20

I think I remember the breakdown. It sounded horrific and sounded like it was not your fault at all. I imagine you are probably nervous anyway and can't believe this is happening to you.
I am so sorry but I also am keeping everything crossed that this is just a formality and that it won't change the outcome.

Please keep us updated. Thinking of you

user1471555041 Wed 07-Sep-16 21:56:53

Thank you for all your kind words. Still no news unfortunately. Finding it very difficult to think about anything else. I'm not sure SS realise the effect this is having on us. Just have to hope tomorrow will be the day.

ac73 Wed 07-Sep-16 22:19:17

Thinking of you.

PoppyStellar Wed 07-Sep-16 23:22:14

You've really been through the mill. I hope everything works out for you. Stay strong flowers

LateToTheParty Thu 08-Sep-16 13:36:44

Hope you get a positive decision soon.

flapjackfairy Wed 21-Sep-16 16:22:02

Dont mean to be nosey but any news.? Keep hoping to see a positive update. If you dont want to share thats fine . Still thinking of you

user1471555041 Wed 21-Sep-16 16:42:26

Thank you for thinking of us and sorry for the delayed response I couldn't work out where my post had gone! We got a yes from ADM so all systems go! 😊

LateToTheParty Wed 21-Sep-16 16:55:40

Brilliant! That's great news & you must be so relieved.

PoppyStellar Wed 21-Sep-16 18:05:29

Fantastic news, really pleased for you all

Hels20 Wed 21-Sep-16 18:44:16

Oh that is wonderful! When do intros start? Very soon?

user1471555041 Wed 21-Sep-16 18:59:16

Yes next week! Very happy and excited, it all worked out in the end smile

tldr Wed 21-Sep-16 19:07:18

Congratulations!

flapjackfairy Wed 21-Sep-16 22:44:12

Oh what great news. I have looked everyday hoping to see that it was resolved and luckily quite quickly it seems(though i am sure it felt like a lifetime to you!). Good luck with intros . How exciting ! Enjoy

Italiangreyhound Thu 22-Sep-16 00:13:11

Congratulations. thanks

Kr1stina Thu 22-Sep-16 12:08:51

Great news !

GirlsWhoWearGlasses Thu 22-Sep-16 12:53:09

That's wonderful. Congratulations!

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