Adopting from overseas - how to prepare my son ?!

[ProundParent2009]

I am currently in the very very long process of adopting a child from overseas, it has been going on for months and months and months and they have looked at every person in the families past and life style as well as filling alot A huge amount of paperwork and needing to meet the deadlines!

I am at the stage now that I am currently adapting our home to best meet the needs of the child and making sure we have everything In place for when he comes to his forever home with his forever family.

Soon I will need to fly to his orphanage to meet him and there the adoption process will continue with a number of court dates and assessments.

I currently have an 8 year old boy who has autism and global development delay, I have tried to talk him though what will happen and I have read him stories and shown him videos and pictures of his soon to be brother in a hope it will help him understand what's going to happen.

When I fly out I am due to be there for over a month and my son here will be staying with his Nanny ( who will spoil him rotten!) when I am there I am keeping my fingers crossed I will be able to face time my son and his Nanny however I know where I am going the signal is extremely poor so I am nervous about telling my son about face timing incase it doesn't work :/

My question is that is there anything else I can do to make the process easier for my son ? I am in contact with a lot of Charlities and they have been absolutely wonderful!

How did you prepare your child for a new member of the family? Biologically or adoption.

This has been an extremely hard and stressful process but it's been worth it and I won't stop until I get my other son home where he belongs!

Thankyou ( posting this on a few topics because I don't where to put it!)

[Italiangreyhound]

Our dd was 9 when we adopted.

We read stories, Like 'Nutmeg gets adopted' and talked a lot.

I tried to emphasis that the new child might have behavioral issues and the kids might not get along. I tried to be as honest as I could.

Our dd has autistic tendencies so she did find it hard, the first year was hard. DD was 9 and dd was 3, almost 4.

Now two years in we feel like a normal family (arguments and all)!!

All the best.

[Italiangreyhound]

ds was 3, almost 4.