I suffered awful mental illness in pregnancy which I got treatment for but DD was put on a child protection plan due to the severity of my illness for a brief time (less than 6 months beginning during the pregnancy so was off before 4 months old) DP and I seperated and have been in a relationship together but living apart for 3 years now
DP has bipolar and the stress of us TTC again triggered a depressive episode for him (he was ironically scared of me getting so ill again) which put a strain on our relationship and we split again right at the point we were about to move back in together (so that hasn't happened)
I was devastated and grieving I suppose for the baby I don't feel like I will have - DP stopped seeing DD for a time stating his illness as the reason and I asked for a referral to children's services on the basis I didn't feel I was coping advised by the HV to see if we could access treatment for me sooner as MH services have basically left me on a long list since the birth of DD which was refused. We decided to go ahead with a TAC (team around a child) and I'm now getting support via a charity.
As part of the TAC we have asked for help protecting DD from the effects of my susceptibility to depression/anxiety and DPs bipolar. The TAC should close next meeting
I feel like there's no hope where adoption is concerned, prior to DD we had always assumed DPs bipolar would mean we couldn't but would have liked to.
Am I right that there's no hope?
Despite the shit - were proactive in seeking help, always engage with services and have a lot of experience of our own to offer (Iv been in care myself, we're very knowledgable of MH issues)
We know quite a lot of people who have adopted (parents of DD's friends) who are always keen to encourage our interest but I haven't disclosed more than my depression/anxiety and DPs bipolar with them
Now is obviously not quite the right time though I wish I could adopt tomorrow. We need time for our relationship to heal again - I understand that.
I'm wondering if any agency would touch us with a bargepole at some point in future though?
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furchesterfurbear · 21/07/2016 13:51
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