Hi all - hope it's OK to post this here! I'm hoping will have some insight into how to handle this.
My SIL and her husband recently adopted a little boy. They don't live near us so we don't see them much. DH took our DS to meet his new cousin a few months back and they had a fabulous time. More recently, we went back and I met him too. All good.
Nephew has - quite understandably - a few issues at the moment. He's had a turbulent past. However my DS is only 3 and doesn't understand some of his cousin's actions. The last time we were there my DS was in tears on a couple of occasions because his cousin was "mean". I tried explaining that X was still learning some things and it would take time, but I think DS is just too little to understand. Just one example - Nephew won't allow DS to touch any of his toys, so DS spent a lot of time standing on the threshold of his bedroom watching him play and getting more and more upset. I understand Nephew's reasoning - he's probably never had his own toys before - but DS really, really doesn't, and was very upset. Tried taking some of our own toys but DS wants to play WITH his cousin, if that makes sense? I have to admit it broke my heart a bit - DS was SO excited to see his cousin and spent the whole time being very disappointed.
Just wondering if anybody has ideas of how to manage this / explain to DS? We don't seem them often but DH and his SIL have just arranged a holiday together so we'll be with them for 4 days solid and I can see me getting very stressed trying to keep the peace. Any advice?
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LetThereBeCupcakes · 23/05/2016 20:13
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