I really need help with sleep! Dd (5) has been with me since she was 2 and a half. Apart from the first six weeks (honeymoon period) when she mostly managed to sleep 7 til 7 - and I was busy being pretty smug about how well she was sleeping (that'll teach me) - she has always had problems with staying asleep.
She goes off to sleep in her own bed in her own room with no fuss. I do have to stay in the room with her but it usually only takes her about 15 mins to fall asleep. The problem arises when she wakes up in the night (anytime from 10pm onwards though most often around 1 or 2 am). She is often upset and can't settle herself off to sleep again. I know this is fairly common not just in adopted children but it is doing my head in.
I am a lone parent and after trying many things I eventually settled on a mattress by my bed in my room which we call her emergency bed. It took quite a while to get her in to a routine where she was able to take herself off to her emergency bed if she woke up and settle herself off to sleep because she knew I'd be coming up to bed at some point soon, but she mastered it. Or so I thought. It worked quite well (not perfectly and not every night but for a lot of the time) for a good while (many months possibly even a year or so). Recently she has reverted to needing me to come upstairs when she wakes up and won't go in to her emergency bed without me. This is really draining me.
Tonight she went off to sleep at 8, woke up crying (well whimpering) at ten, I checked she was ok (talked to her from bottom of stairs) she went in to her emergency bed then half an hour later got up again and stood at top of stairs whimpering 'I need you'. I am now lying on my bed hoping she has dropped off in her emergency bed and feeling like I am in the middle of full blown sleep regression. Nothing major has happened in our lives recently. She seems happy at school and with her friends. It has taken so long to even get to this point with sleeping that I can't face having to devise new ways of trying to get her to stay asleep. I am so tired and drained and generally exhausted. I work, luckily from home most of the time, but even so, these interrupted nights are really affecting my ability to work, concentrate and generally function like a sensible human being during the day.
Does anyone have any suggestions for helping my gorgeous daughter to learn how to stay asleep please? Anyone??! Thank you
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poppystellar · 21/01/2016 23:05
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