Feel like since Boxing Day we've been thrust into the middle of an episode of Jeremy Kyle, so please bare with me!
The missus's brother (Dave, 20) was in a relationship with this lass (Amy, 20) for almost 3 years. Amy just had her 3 y.o. boy (from a previous relationship) taken off her by the courts as he had unexplained bruises. This happened in Oct last year, an after the fact finding they decided Amy must have caused them.
She turned around and told Dave a few days before Xmas eve that she was 7 months pregnant(!). She'd been asked about it previously, but denied it until she finally realised she would have to come clean.
Dave never wanted kids of his own and Amy knew this, and he has no intention of taking full responsibility for the baby after SS told him she would only be able to see it with him there / supervised. They were living together at Dave's mums at the time, but he has since broken up with her.
Me (29) an the missus (27) have two daughters of our own (3 & 5) and had SS around this morning to begin a viability assessment for an SGO for when the baby (a boy / our nephew) is born at the start of March.
Right in the middle of the interview, they decided to let us know that Amy has come out and said it might not even be Dave's baby as she apparently cheated on him right around the "right" time, and would we still want to take the baby on (provided the biological father wanted nothing to do with it) if it wasn't Dave's?
Obviously we didn't know how to respond to that off the cuff, an they've given us to the end of the week to think it over. I think i'd come across as cruel even asking about the possibility of a prenatal paternity test due to how invasive it is, so I don't think that's an option. A paternity test will be performed when the baby is born.
I think whatever we say, they will have to contact the other prospective father just in case it isn't Dave's. Me an the missus are just trying to get our heads around why we would even accept to go ahead with the SGO if it wasn't family? I mean it's still a baby that may need a home, and in that sense we would still be able to bring him up. Is this a test of our commitment to the baby itself, or to a potential family member?
Just a little confused, any input would be appreciated here
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SgoUncle · 04/01/2016 17:27
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