Hello, long time no post but here I am asking for your sage advice again.
My DS, 7, was diagnosed with ambivalent/anxious attachment style last year. He now has a full time one to one TA at school, which has helped hugely at school and to a certain degree at home.
His most concerning symptom is aggressive meltdowns where he'll flip and start throwing things, spitting, kicking, biting, pinching, you name it until he can calm down. These have got less frequent and a little less out of control, but of course he is also getting bigger and less easy to contain/remove. They are not easy to head off as he can flip like a switch, but he has recently started being able to "come back from the brink" if someone catches him at the right time and reminds him that he has a choice.
Yesterday was particularly bad, had a total nightmare getting him into school and then in the evening the same at bedtime - transitions are particularly challenging for him.
Getting to the point, yesterday he threatened me with a knife, threatened to kill himself several times and wrapped a strap around his neck and talked about killing the rest of us. I'm not worried that he really wants to do these things, but I do worry about the thoughts that he's having and I'm bothered that he might decide to act something out as an experiment. He has been like this before, around this time last year.
When I got onto our post adoption service last year they referred us to a clinical psychologist which was great except that it turned out just to be Webster Stratton training, which I'd already done twice. I've recently asked for de-escalation and safe restraint training which was met with incredulity.
My question is, does anyone have experience of this type of behaviour have any top tips for managing it and does anyone think I ought to be onto CAMHS and if so, has anyone had any kind of therapy for their child that helped? I feel that if someone else was telling me this about their child I'd tell them to be shouting out for help, but having been here before I'm not sure realistically what kind of help might be available and more importantly, might be effective.
I found the experience with the psychologist last year hugely undermining and I don't want to put us all through similar if there is not much to be gained from doing so.
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Piffyonarock · 17/11/2015 06:42
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