Adopted DS age 7 and now 5 in January. We did the usual stuff ie: carrying them, feeding them, dressing them, washing them, brushing teeth, wiping bottoms etc
8 months on and DS2 aged 5 is pretty much doing things himself now, we help him get dressed for school - it's quicker and we carry him to bed- he's sleepy and we brush his teeth sometimes.
But DS1 is still wanting us to do everything. He sees it as very personal when we don't - as rejection I think. A few things like carrying, I've had to say "I'm sorry sweetie you are just too heavy" but he wants feeding, dressing, teeth brushing, bottom wiping (I hang back on this a lot as I really think he needs to be able to do this for school etc - the rest I know he can do but doesn't want to)
I AM SHATTERED!! Doing everything is wearing me out. My adoption leave has just finished and going back to work I need him to be more independent.
He has a lot of jealousy issues with brother and a generally negative outlook. He is very manipulative and controlling, which I think comes I to play with all of this. I don't want to reject him but how do I stop?
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Kazza299 · 06/09/2015 10:56
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