Hi,
we are adoptive parents of two wonderful children, and our story so far has been challenging but i dont want to go into too much detail, but needless to say there has been some disclosures about the birth family some pretty serious ones at that.
and we have had a few meltdowns at school and home when birth family have been mentioned by social workers with us having to collect them home early etc.
any way, we have told this to social workers and over the past 6 months everything has been going great as they haven't mentioned it, our court date is looming and for some reason the BM is applying for consent to contest which means a child guardian was appointed.
she had to make a visit which is fine, no objection, we had a chat in the living room when she arrived and explained everything to her while the kids were in the garden with my other half
then she started talking to the kids later about family, they both said quite adamantly we are their family and couldn't remember anything otherwise, then she decided to bring up the past and tell them where they had been and what happened to them and all about their birth family.
the kids are now crying clearly upset when shes asking them but she persists anyway making them even more upset, then says right that's all i need i'm off.
and off she pops in her car back home.
we are now left with 2 kids who dont trust us, "you said you would protect us and we are your family" "that women is coming to take us away i hate you" pretty much lots of this, 4 hours on the kids are still in a meltdown and while i understand i am their dad and i need to pick up the pieces and spend another 6 months reassuring them, that's my job as a dad, but WHY?
why did she need to do this to us?
i feel she has caused unnecessary harm to the kids and i am outraged.
what should we do is there anything we can do? or do we just accept it, work hard for another 6 months through tantrums etc all because this unsympathetic lady? she told us she didn't have to bring it all up, then goes ahead anyway.
she should be sacked in my opinion.
any advice welcome.
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llamaking · 31/07/2015 16:46
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