cant bring myself to watch Long Lost family.Too upsetting for me personally.
Wht exactly is it about?
Is it women who HAD to give their babies up in a bygone era and want to meet them all these years later?
Is it kids from childrens homes (not adopted) who want to meet their blood kin?
Any Birth dads about?
If its adopted kids wanting to know birth stories how do their adopted parents and family feel about it?
I did read in the tv times that one person wanted to meet their DNA person to 'have a sense of identitiy', or something? dont they have identity from theor adopted family?
Im adopted, i hated it when I found out, I was abandonded as unwanted, my brilliant parents are all ive loved, i didnt even want want to know TBH, my family's my family. although I found out I was literally thrown away and left somewhere.
I only found out as an adult needing my birth cert for something. when i saw 'adoption order' paper i was shocked.
mine are the only family ive evr known and loved, i have no interest at all in where and in who s womb i was grown, as far as Im concernerd LOVE transcends biology.
my parents loved me enough to want me in their home and were willing to go through the whole process to have me. THATS love, THATS family.
THATS my identity. i would think it would break their hearts if i started scouting around for a past that wasnt meant to be. and i dont want to, my anscestors are my family whove loved and nurtured me and brought me up.
thats why i cant watch the pogramme.
I understand if it was a forced removal from someone, but an unwanted unloved? why go through the pain of that rejection?
when I found out at fiorst i was all 'well, as much as my family love me, someone else was supposed to'. that feeling of rejection never goes, but in the end it was my familys gain, and mine.
hope that makes sense.
thing is , my main question is, dont adoptees come across as glorified nannies or something, theyre not your 'real ' parents? of COURSE they are.
and whats blood got to do with it anyway?
when 2 people meet, fall in love, they get married and become family, but they dont share the same blood, they become family by love and a marriage cert.
so whats the difference then when you fall for a child and they become your family through love and a certificate?
that's my personal feeling, hope I haven't upset anyone in any way, im not good at pouring my heart in print!
Here are some suggested organisations that offer expert advice on adoption.
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Can I ask a sensitive question about Long lost families please?
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