My friend has an adopted daughter aged 8 who she adopted at 18 months, let's call her Amy. Amy has 2 older siblings, a brother aged 16 and sister aged 14. Both are in separate care homes, not in foster families.
The adoption sets out that Amy doesn't see her brother but sees her sister twice a year at on neutral territory, ie not in the care home.
Amy is a happy girl and doing well at school, is settled and has friends. However, seeing her sister really affects her negatively. She becomes teary and clingy in the days leading up to the visit and for a week or so after. Amy's sister says how lucky she is to be in a wealthy family and have holidays. Nice clothes and shoes, have pets etc. there is obvious jelousy.
My friend try's to keep cheery and says that it is nice to see her sister etc. but it makes no affect on Amy who is very unsettled after.
Social services have called my friend to say that Amy's sister is struggling in care and has asked to see Amy more often, quarterly and possibly more often. My friend has told social services that this is not good for Amy and they are putting her sisters needs above Amy's.
Can my friend say no?
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brownpaperbag2 · 29/05/2015 07:59
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