Hi all. We agreed to 4 yearly contacts with a full sibling to our children who adopted a year ago. Their sibling is a few years older than our oldest child. Our children's sibling had not lived with them for 2 years and ss were actively trying to have them adopted as well. So a year on we have not yet had the agreed face to face sibling contact as their sibling is still with a foster carer and has regular contact with BM. Now we have been advised that there will not be an adoption for them and it will be long term foster care. Also that they would like to arrange a face to face contact with our children. My concern/ question is that our oldest at 4 year's knows their new surname, where we live, nursery they attend etc and if we did have contact how would we protest them when this information could be shared with their older sibling and in turn with BM who is still having contact? We are now considering saying no to face to face contact. Would we be unreasonable to do so? Only agreed to the contact as we believed the sibling would be adopted which is sadly not going to happen. Feel bad but that we must put the safety of our own children first. Looking for others thoughts or experiences on how to manage this type of situation. Thanks.
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