Can I ask opinions please?
A family member had a son 18 years ago, who was adopted. His new family occasionally sent photos back which I saw, to explain the recognition part.
A few months later I had my own DD.
Both babies were born with the same health condition, which has family support groups etc, which we visited on and off over the years.
When the kids were about four we went to a Christmas party for the support group and I recognised this family. Not knowing the correct etiquette I did not approach or chat to this family.
So, today my now 18 year old DD was back at hospital and I got to wondering what I would do if by coincidence this family were there.
Waiting room chat between parents almost always turns to the incidence of this health condition and whether any family members share it.
Would it be fair for me to mention a relative whose son was adopted - his health was not the reason for adoption - and leave it up to the family if they were there to say "hey, that's me"?
Or would that be totally inappropriate and, given I wouldn't recognise them now, should I never mention an adopted relative in this smallish circle, as his new family won't want to inadvertantly meet a birth relative.
Thoughts please!
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CormoranStrike · 20/03/2015 00:28
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