Bm birthday today

[Mama1980]

Just that really. It's my girls bm s birthday today. Today my eldest forgot genuinely she's been working, went to dinner with her boyfriend, their now watching a movie....I just took in snack and she looks so happy. I'm so so proud of her. My youngest (1) has no idea obviously she will never know any mother that's not me.
I can't talk about bm in real life, my eldest rarely mentions her and if she does its in a passing, casual way these days. She used to love listening to me tell her fun stories about when we were growing up but now she doesn't care she's simply become irrelevant to her. She told me she barely even thinks about before anymore. She's so happy and kind and funny and smart. I am so so proud of her. She deserves this happiness this freedom from her past, heaven knows she worked hard enough for it.
But sometimes I remember and I miss my friend, I hate, hate that I could do nothing to help her. I hate remembering that right now she's probably alone, abused, high or worse.
Sorry there's no purpose to this and no need to reply. I just wanted to acknowledge somehow that I feel this way. That I miss my friend though she will never know it and probably wouldn't care if she did. I hope she's had a good day.

[Mixtape]

I don't know your story but it sounds like you have achieved just that - a normal, happy girl who has dealt with her past.

Addiction is a terrible, terrible thing and takes away people we love by turning them into someone else.

[Kewcumber]

I think there's a part of her that would care that you miss her. The part that you grew up with and shared all that history with. She isn't just the person she ended up as, she's all the parts of her right from when she was born up to the day she left.

It's right that you should mourn the passing of your old friend, just as its right that you DD1 should be allowed to not dwell on it. That doesn't mean there won't come a time again when she wants to hear those old stories, maybe when she's a bit older and has children of her own?

It's OK to be sad and to regret there wasn't more that you could have done. But there wasn't.