Hi everyone,
I realise this isn't exactly a new topic on this forum but I just needed to vent a bit... We were approved nearly 5 months ago and are yet to see a single profile and I'm beginning to feel a bit frustrated. Our SW is very upbeat and confident that there are options on the horizon but every child she mentions as a potential possibility seems to have mysteriously disappeared by the next time we see her. I think she is trying to tell us about any vague possibilities rather than come with nothing each time, but to be honest I'd rather be told there was nothing than get our hopes raised when it is unlikely to come to anything.
We also have the added complication of managing the situation with our BC. Our SW has recommended we get the nursery ready for the prospective AC as a way of helping our BC understand what is happening, but although this has generated some good conversations with BC they now want to know when the 'baby' will arrive. I had a friend visit with her own baby the other day and my BC proudly showed them the room evidently under the impression that this might be the much discussed future sibling!
I know that compared to a lot of you on here 5 months is not that significant a time to be matched, and I actually felt fine about it before Christmas, but now that we are about to start a new year I want to know when/if it is ever going to happen...
Also, on a side note, as we have been encouraged to get the nursery ready I wanted to ask if any of you have had to repaint a room because of your AC's background? We are not expecting them to be old enough to express a preference themselves as our BC is only 4 and our agency recommend that the AC will be at least 2 years younger, but the room is currently a rather bold shade and I'd like to tone it down. Don't want to go to the hassle of repainting it now only to have to do it again later for a reason specific to future AC.
Sorry for the long post and (nearly) a Happy New Year to you all :-)
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researchbookworm · 30/12/2014 23:01
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