Hi all
Some of you will remember my agonising over when to start ds at school. He is a summer-born and we looked into starting him in the year below or going in after Christmas or Easter.
After seeing the educational psychologist (who works with looked after children) and talking to an attachment specialist, plus my thinking and researching about this a lot we have decided what to do!
My dh and I have decided that in our situation it feels right for ds to go to big school, reception year, after Christmas, part-time (very much on a if I do not feel like taking him I won't!) basis.
He is under 5 so does not need to be there at all but we feel he is ready and it would benefit him as one of his needs is to make friends.
So he will be attending about half of reception year, nothing for first term (except a couple of taster mornings next month) part-time (half-time) for second term and full-time (with more of the if I do not feel like taking him I won't!) for the third term.
In terms of keeping him home it will depend how he is coping, if he is tired etc.
I have found this all very hard and stressful.
I am someone who hates formal education and especially for young kids (please, no offence to teachers at all, I just do like formal education or going to school too early!).
I realised part of my situation was grieving that this being at home stage was coming to an end. I;d had 4 plus years with dd before school (although I worked part-time and she was in nursery part-time, and only 6 or so months with ds; it will be over 8 by the time he actually goes.
I was very tearful for a day or so, and at times I was conflicted what was right! I do feel it 100% (as much as any decision can be 100%) right to have kept him home for first term but I do now feel a real sense of peace about him going to big school.
I am not really posting for advice on my/our decision, as I do feel dh and I have made it now, and are talking to ds about big school. He seems fine, has settled well at home and will have his big sis at the school.
However, I just felt I wanted to share what was right for us.
I would also welcome any comments on how to get him 'ready' for school. He already attends preschool, which is a session of three hours about three times a week. He is managing that well, enjoys it quite a lot but is still anxious about my being late to collect him/not collecting him etc. I have been late (7 minutes) once!
As you can tell, this is what we feel is right for us and I would totally support others who sent their summer-born children earlier if they felt it was right, ditto for later and for adopted or birth children.
It has been a strain and knowing what is happening and planned seems right for us all now.
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Ds starting school part time after Christmas - nervous but ready! I think! Both me and him!!
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Italiangreyhound · 08/11/2014 18:22
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