My work friend adopted a DS some years ago and she and her DH were approved and matched with a new DD this year. I just found out today that a couple of months after she moved in my friend had a very serious illness and was in the ICU. While she was in there the SWs decided to remove the girl and return her to her FCs that she had previously been with.
I knew about the illness and that she was on the road to recovery (she is in fact about to go back to work) but had assumed that having their new DD was a silver lining to an awful year. I was about to send them a congratulations card, an announcement card for our own DD (we have been abroad for some time meeting her) and to ask whether there was anything they'd like as a gift for their DD. I had emailed to ask for their home address to send both cards to.
I don't really know what to do now, I would feel bad sending them our announcement card though they were very excited with us having a potential match (that was very last minute though we had inklings a while back) at the same time that they had a long and drawn out matching process (owing to the little girl's LA dragging their feet, which apparently they did the whole time she was in care).
What can I possibly say or do for my friend? I feel so useless.
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drspouse · 31/08/2014 22:04
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