My ds age 5 has an older fostered sibling we see regularly. We dropped the sibling off at foster carer's yesterday after having time together and ds was very upset saying goodbye.
He thoroughly enjoys seeing his brother and although ds is very happy with us and considers us to be his family he has a huge bond with his db and I feel (amateur psychiatrist!) he remembers all he has lost (big family, only sees other sibs sporadicaly) and his db has become symbolic for this loss iyswim.
So, ds was quietly sobbing and i was saying things like "i know you are disappointed and sad and thats ok to feel that way, its only natural etc" and fc came out and asked what was wrong. Ds said he didnt want db to go and Fc then said in a strict voice "if you dont stop crying you wont have anymore contact with db!" he said "it is my job as foster carer to make sure db doesn't get upset and he will get upset if you keep on crying."
I'm fuming! I'm going to have to say something but it wasn't appropriate then. I reassured ds that fc didn't mean what he said but actually I'm not really sure he didn't!
I don't want to make a huge thing about it as the casual contact we have at the moment is good for ds. Any ideas?
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MerryInthechelseahotel · 16/06/2014 23:02
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