Have namechanged for this because I am so confused and also ashamed to be feeling like this. DH and I want to adopt. We'e got an initial meeting with a SW in a week. We already have DC and want to complete our family with an adopted child.
I've spent lots time on here and on the much more scary Adoption Uk boards and it has just left me really confused.
We have the capacity physically, emotionally and financially to have another child. We know that adopting a child won't be the same as having a BC and that there will difficult times. We want to be able to make a positive difference in the life of a child who might not have another chance. We know that adoption comes with many more uncertainties than having a BC. We're not scared of making all of our lives more challenging in the hope that we might all be better people for it.
BUT We have a lovely life, we're a happy family. I am terrified that adopting a child will completely shatter all of this and affect our BC for ever.
There seem to be so many more unhappy stories than positive ones...It seems almost inevitable that an AC comes and will develop with many problems which will have a deep impact on the whole family.
I don't know what I am expecting from this thread except that I have seen the support that this board offers and I know that there are some very experienced people from all sides of adoption who might be able to reassure me, or not.
Please or to access all these features
Please
or
to access all these features
Here are some suggested organisations that offer expert advice on adoption.
Adoption
Really want to adopt but very scared as well.
9 replies
roundandaroundincircles · 05/06/2014 14:32
OP posts:
Please create an account
To comment on this thread you need to create a Mumsnet account.