Feel I should name change to Scardy Cat of Mayfair!
One of my friends is in the early stages of placement. Like me she has a birth child and has adopted a younger sibling, much younger, of opposite gender. Can't say much more as do not want to out her!
She is finding it quite hard as the kids are arguing a lot and the older child is being quite negative about the new arrival. Of course I am only hearing it from her side and not really knowing what is going on in the minds of the kids but feel sad for her and them and feeling worried for me now!
We have tried to prepare DD well but I know that in the end it could all be quite hard and I am now getting scared. What if DD turns round and blames me for adopting and is unhappy?
For the longest time our family life has been about DD, her needs and her wants and me and DH have enjoyed life and struggled and got through it! Going back into the younger years is scary.
I feel very happy to be adopting and totally right the child is the age he is. I am quite relieved now we did not get matched to a baby or toddler (no offence to those who are, that is why the matching process is so good, when it works, because we are all different!).
Anyway, I have been lucky, lovely referees, lovely social workers, met foster carer and she is an angel. Now it's me and DH and our DD and new DS (soon to be) and I am wondering if we can cope! And what if we can't! Scardy Cat of Mayfair!
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Feel I should name change to Scardy Cat of Mayfair!
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Italiangreyhound · 03/05/2014 21:29
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