I know the parameters of the kind of child I was happy to be matched with and to adopt have broadened the longer I have been in this process and now I wonder how 'normal' or 'average' this is (to broaden ones views!)
I feel it is most definitely not a case of being so 'desperate' to have another child that I would consider adopting any child. It is more about transferring the attention of the adoption on to the child rather than me as an adult.
For a lot of the process I was thinking of me, what I wanted, needed etc.
I have a great deal of admiration for Kew, Lilka, Kristina and Devora, and countless others, who have helped me to see the needs of the child, not in a negative 'stop thinking about yourself' way but in a positive 'you can make a difference to a child's life but you gotta get it right for them' way!
So thanks one and all and I wonder if anyone wants to share stories (without any judgement) of how their parameters of matching criteria.
If I were adopting a fresh I would even consider older still! I started out quite narrow on age and gender (open on race) and have become more open generally. Not sure if this is 'a thing'.
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Italiangreyhound · 30/04/2014 18:09
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