This is my first time posting on this site. I am after some non-judgmental advice, hopefully from others who have been in a similar situation.
I am 37, single and 34 weeks pregnant with twins. I did not find out I was pregnant with twins until I was 15 weeks, at which point I could not go through with an abortion.
The father of the children has been no help at all; we split up shortly after I found out I was pregnant, I would like him to be involved and have tried to reach out to him but to no avail. I organised a meeting with him several weeks ago and after an amicable discussion, after which I felt that we were finally getting somewhere, he sent me a torrent of abusive text messages. I have avoided initiating any contact with him since.
I do not have any other children, have a full time job and family can only offer limited support (for which I am grateful). I have contacted the local children's centre and have an appointment to look around and see what they have to offer in terms of support but I do not feel in any way prepared or emotionally equipped to deal with looking after two babies.
I feel that I could manage one baby on my own with limited support but two just feels like too much. I do not feel any strong 'bond' with my unborn children, although I feel duty bound to protect them. People say this will change after the birth but I am worried. I get a lot of comments about how 'amazing' it is that I am having twins but of course none of these people will be around to help out.
I am thinking that adoption for both of them might be a good option but I am scared about talking to the maternity services at the hospital in case matters are taken out of my hands.
Has anyone given up children voluntarily for adoption? There seems to be no information available, only stories about people who have had forced adoptions.
Any advice would be gratefully received, and yes, I know I have 'messed up' and I am probably very selfish in my concerns, so please refrain from pointing it out.
Thanks in advance.
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fb70 · 21/04/2014 21:01
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