I'm posting here even though I don't know if this issue has got anything to do with adoption but there are so many wise heads on this board.<br><br>A bit of backstory... DD is now 11. DH met DD and her BM when DD was 11 months old. He married BM and 6 months later she died. DD had just turned 2. I met them 6 months later, we got married and adopted her together. So although she is adopted she has had a stable family for a long time. Well... stable... I have some mental health problems but we've worked through it and things have been mostly good for more than a year now.<br><br>We have some challenges with DD. One is eating, she makes very bad dietary choices and seems driven to eat sweets etc. We think she eats sugar out of the bowl. (A friend says she also did this, her psychiatrist thinks it's because she had a bad relationship with her mother.) She eats a very small variety of foods and this causes friction. She has an incredible ability to read emotion, her psychologist commented on it. She acts out horribly when I'm not well even if I think I'm doing a good job of hiding it. <br><br>The issue at the moment is this: <a target="_blank" href="/Talk/_chat/a2051620-WWYD-DD-lost-DHs-wedding-ring?msgid=46360592#46360592">www.mumsnet.com/Talk/_chat/a2051620-WWYD-DD-lost-DHs-wedding-ring?msgid=46360592#46360592</a>. I posted in chat but wanted to get comments here as well because I'm worried that we're doing something wrong and not meeting her emotional needs. DH shocked me... I asked what we have done wrong for her to think this is ok and he said that maybe you cannot fix everything through nurture, nature will play a role... I'm so sad for him, and for her... they adore each other, she is a real daddy's girl and he has been her rock for most of her life. I don't know what to do.