Hi all,
I've been lurking on these threads for while, while I've been going through the application process. I'm due to go to panel at the end of March, but I'm still wondering about whether I should specify a gender for an AC...and I would love your advice dear MNetters!
My DS(6) is a BC. His dad and I are divorced so I'll be adopting as a single mother. DS spends almost half his time with his dad, who seems to be doing a good job of parenting him (funny how that only happened after we split up...but that's another thread! ).
Anyway - I've always said I have no preference for adopting a particular gender, but recently I've been wondering about what would be best for DS (who is a sensitive, thoughtful little soul).
Part of me thinks that DS would deal better with a little sister (less direct competition) but then I worry that DS might actually see a sister as threatening. She would share her gender with me...whereas DS wouldn't. I worry that DS would feel like he was in the minority....that he'd feel pushed out.
On the other hand I've been thinking that DS might feel more threatened by a little brother because he would have more direct competition. I also worry that maybe DS would identify so much with another boy that he might sometimes want his brother to go with him when he goes to his to his dads (which unfortunately is unlikely to happen).
Am I making any sense? Do I seem like an enormous worrier? Any thoughts?
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Bertiebassett · 11/02/2014 16:58
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