I am not sure if I'm going crazy!
Our DS (age 4) has been with us 6 weeks. Initially he wouldn't come close to me at all, now he sits on my lap, plays, cuddles (everything apart from "snuggle" watching films side by side)
My DH is in the forces, while he was away for 2 weeks our bond most certainly grew stronger.
DS has always been comfortable with DH since day one - doing all of the above & more no problems.
My 'issue' is (and I do feel like I'm becoming very silly/childish myself thinking this way!) is that when DH returns home, DS pretty much just clings to him the way he did in the beginning. So bath times, bedtimes (everything) he'd prefer him to do. Granted he is still more at ease than he was with me, but he still wants daddy to do everything & cuddle on the sofa for bedtime.
Is this normal for me to feel this way! I actually find myself getting upset & frustrated over it, which of course is to the dislike of my DH.
We have tried explaining to DS that it is ok to sit with mummy to when daddy is back (he is off for several weeks over Xmas) & we've also just left him to it, I.e sit where he wants & has who he wants for routine based things.
I do not want to have this constant worry for 5 weeks as it will put a dampner on Xmas, but it does upset me - as silly as it sounds I feel "rejected!"
Any advice or comments of a similar situation or feelings would really help me a lot (unless I am the only one to get upset by this?!)
Thank you :) x
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Buster51 · 17/12/2013 07:33
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