Love reading all the messages and support on here, am a newbie and wondering if anyone can give me a bit of insight into the adoption process.
DH and I are late twenties, homeowners (with a small yard!) and been married about 6 months (together for two years before that, not living together). We both have experience of children (DH is primary school teacher, I have worked with children with special needs) and would love to adopt, particularly children with special needs or possibly a sibling group. The plan would be that DH works FT while I was a SAHM - he earns about £29k. We are talking about things alot more seriously now and beginning to think about making initial enquiries now so that the adoption would go through in the next 2 years or so - we will probably be around 30 by then (if all went smoothly!)
We don't have any children and have never tried to conceive - I've actually always wanted to adopt more than I wanted birth children. We love the idea of adopting first as we would have the necessary time and energy to give to children with additional needs, however I worry that we might have some difficulty conceiving - nothing has ever been confirmed but I have always had irregular periods, pain at random times of the month, been to the gp a lot for period etc.
I guess my questions are;
- is there anything about our situation that might make us more/less favourable for adoption? Do we earn enough money? Will the fact we have only been married/living together a short while work against us? Do we need a house with a garden for children to play in?!
- How long do SS want between adoption and possible birth children? We really want to adopt first but also don't want to leave it too late to try for birth children, especially if it might be difficult.
- What can we do/read/experience in the meantime to help us prepare for/decide about the adoption process?
Sorry if the questions are naive/story too detailed. I'm really excited about the process and would just love as much info as possible - didn't want to drip feed!