Our DS has been with us just over 2 years and he came to us at 18 months (so is 3.8 now).We have talked about that he hasn't always lived with us and that he grew in someone elses tummy but he has always pretty much ignored us when we've talked about it and turned away or tried to change the subject. We haven't pushed anything and have only talked about it when and appropriate situation has arisen.
He mentioned in passing about 3 days ago that he didn't grow in my tummy and then changed the subject. Last night we were talking about birthdays and when his friends birthdays were. The convo went like this:
Him: "why is Jacobs birthday in May"
Me: "because that's the day he was born"
Him: Long pause and then "what does born mean"
Me: "Born is when he came out of his Mummys tummy"
Him: "which Mummys tummy did i come from"
Me: "xxxx's"
Him " xxxx? What's xxxx like"
Me: "she is a little smaller than me and has long brown hair:
Him "like you?"
Me: "brown hair like me but hers is long"
Him "like daddy's?"
Me: "yes like Daddys"
Him: "what colour shirt does she wear"
Me: "well she'll probably wear a different colour everyday"
Him: "I don't like xxx. She's not my Mummy, just someone elses".
Me: "i am your Mummy and i'm so happy that you are my darling"
He then sat up on his knees, wrapped his arms around my and kissed me.
I feel weird. Happy that he has asked and that the dialogue has started but petrified that i'll say the wrong thing!!
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Just wanted to share the convo between me and DS last night
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flossymuldoon · 13/05/2013 09:34
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