Thanks all. Am slowly trekking my way through adoption (but get waylaid by other things) I think counselling would be good for me because it would help me accept that this is the beginning of new things and the end of...before iyswim. Thank you all for being so welcoming.
I'm sorry you have had to travel this path, it is a rocky one. Best advice is to enjoy some time as the two of you, have a holiday have some fun, enjoy life for a while. Counselling is a good idea if you feel you need it. Best wishes for the future, hang around, we sometimes have some good advice. :-)
I just wanted to wish you all the best, Inthebeginning.
I am sorry you have had a rough journey. As I just said on another thread I did IVF and many other treatments, and found it heartbreaking. Like you I had counselling afterwards, and now I realise without that I would not have had the strength to go through the process of adoption - which is equally as stressful in many ways. I really hope counselling will help you as much as it helped me.
Enjoy the time for you - have a holiday if you can - maybe be a little self indulgent - and recharge and regroup ready for the tough but oh so very rewarding time ahead.
Read everything and anything about adoption, and learn all you can in advance. Good luck!!
Best thing you can do is hang around here and find out lots about adoption . Also haunt the adoptionuk and BAAF websites, read books, pay off any debt, have some holidays. I think you are right to consider counselling, and it will reassure social services that you understand the importance of really moving on from hoping to conceive before you start on adoption.
My sympathies on your rough journey. If it's any consolation (though it's certainly not a promise) I found the adoption process far less stressful than the process of conceiving my first child.
Hi, We tried our last dose of clomid in January. We have decided not to continue with it or ivf etc as (among other things) it has been a long and upsetting three year journey. So, we are going to concentrate on us for a few months and then in the summer start looking at the adoption process. I think I would benefit from counselling so that I am ready and strong as it has been a tough three years. But is there anything else we should do to get ready? (Apart from by the sounds of it enjoy the calm before the storm ) We are beginning to get excited although we know it will be a long journey. Thank you for any help.