Support for my SIL?

(3 Posts)
Whyriskit Mon 11-Feb-13 18:41:33

My very lovely sil and her equally lovely DH have just started the adoption process. I know it will be a long haul as a colleague of mine has just been through it.
What, if anything, can I do to support them?

Happiestinwellybobs Mon 11-Feb-13 18:57:48

My sister & parents were amazing throughout our process - so if you do what they did you won't go far wrong. They listened when we expressed worries, ranted when things went slowly, were interested, yet never pushed for lots of information. They accepted every decision we made. And when DD finally arrived, they celebrated and treated her arrival no differently than if I had given birth to her.

There is a good book on amazon that we gave to all our relatives "Related by adoption: a handbook for grandparents and other relatives" by Hedi Argent. It is a good start as to what to expect.

Ladyofthehouse Fri 15-Feb-13 21:03:29

Ahhh I wish some of our family had thought like you!

I think you just need to take an interest but also realise they might need some space after sessions. Some of our friends wanted to know every detail which was a bit much!

And celebrate each little milestone with them!

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