Hi everyone. Hope you don't mind me asking a question that I think some of you here might have some views on? I live in Africa. There's an amazing orphanage near us which is really an uplifting place. They are really, really struggling for money but it's clear that they provide a loving environment and give real attention to the babies and small children they care for. We know the place because we donate money and toys whenever we can.
Adoption laws here are complex. I'd consider adopting having been there and having seen the level of need but we'd need to remain living here for several years and that's not possible so instead we do what we can to help. Here comes the question; the orphanage apparently allows the babies to go home with families for weekends. From their perspective, I guess, it is one less mouth to feed and the baby gets so one on one love and attention. I get that this is probably not a good idea from the child protection view point - that you don't know who is taking the child home or what will happen there. I get that this shouldn't be allowed. But there is no concept of that kind of thing here and so it is allowed.
My question (finally) is, child protection issues aside, is this actually going to be good for the child? Yes they get some one on one but surely it must be very confusing and disconcerting for children who already struggle with belonging etc? Or does the benefit of spending time in a home setting out weigh that? I'm asking because if this is actually a good thing to do, then there is nothing I would like more than to help out in this way. But I suspect that it isn't. In which case, I'll stick to donating maize and clothes...
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BlameItOnTheBogey · 28/01/2013 16:31
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