I had lunch with some friends from the PTA yesterday. A very lovely woman (who would probably be mortified to know I was wound up by her comment) was breast-feeding her newborn. Another of the PTA who is herself adopted said "never mind, my mum never got to breast feed either" which startled me a bit as I hadn't actually been thinking anything along those lines. So I shrugged and said, "oh it really doesn't matter to me these days, its not something I think of much anymore". Lovely breast feeding lady said "Weren't you lucky not to suffer the pain of pregnancy/breast feeding" (I cant' remember the exact phrase).
I think she caught me at a bad time because normally I would probably just think - oh she's having a hard time breast feeding and sleepless nights and smile nicely saying "yes aren't I lucky". But instead I smiled nicely and said "yes, on the other hand my child has a year of his life missing which I can't fill for him which is painful to me"
Now I feel like a bitch because I'm sure she was just doing what we discussed on the thread - just trying to look on the positive side.
It always rubs me up the wrong way when people imply adopting is easier than giving birth. Is there a way of desensitizing myself to it because I don't think the general public are going to change any time soon!?
Here are some suggested organisations that offer expert advice on adoption.
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