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ds1 arrived into the sitting room last night with a pile of wrapped presents and put them under the tree .

For anyone who "knows" me, you will appreciate that this is a Christmas miracle of the highest order.

If someone had told me four years ago that this would ever happen I wouldn't have even thought to believe them.

Oh wow How fantastic!! Merry Christmas Maryz

So they do become human again then!

Have a lovely time unwrapping them tomorrow.

That is fantastic MaryZ. I am really happy for you and hoping that there is light at the end of your tunnel. Have a wonderful Christmas!

<gulp>

Oh Maryz - I have read many of your posts and understand why this is so meaningful.

I hope you and your family have a lovely Christmas.

Thanks all.

He's out tonight. Fingers crossed he is civilised tomorrow morning [hopeful].

Yes, they do become human, apparently .

I also understand how marvellous this is, Maryz, having read your posts.
Wondefful.
Have a great day tomorrow.

Wonderful.
I too have followed many of your threads.
So happy for you.
Happy Christmas.

I've been lurking (because I have a friend who is trying to adopt) and I have an ASD child (though much younger), so I just wanted (because it is Christmas and no-one is a stranger then) to say that is wonderful Maryz. Sending virtual hugs to you both.

Blimey!!!! What fantastic news, long may it continue.

My eldest is 14, I have another 3 dds to even get to that age let alone beyond it

Now even this devout atheist can believe in miracles.

Merry Christmas Maryz - savour the moment.

I would be a wet blanket if I pointed out that you haven't opened them yet. Mind you, a wrapped present is a wrapped present, even if it turns out to be a can of anti-freeze from the 24 hr garage.

Aw. How lovely. I am so pleased for you.

Have a wonderful Xmas Maryz!

Oh Maryz, that has brought a lump to my throat.

Bless him.

I have JUST FINISHED WRAPPING SODDING PRESENTS, and am now off to bed - leaving the house in a complete state, to be tackled tomorrow morning (I will, no doubt, be up early!). Very merry Christmas, everyone

See, I know nothing about the history here, but it all sounds rather smashing. You go girl. «winds hands in front of body»

Oh mary thats wonderful. I am a cynical old bag but that has brought a tear to my eye. Hope you all had a lovely day

Well, just to update you all - he had a really late night Christmas Eve, but still got up early to open stockings with the younger two. He then went with friends to deliver some stuff to a homeless hostel , and then came home and went with us for Christmas dinner with relatives where he produced Christmas presents for Grandparents and joined in family games (as well as carving the ham and doing some of the washing up).

This has truly been the best Christmas ever . And he has agreed to go away with us all (the whole family) next week to a hotel to celebrate his grandfather's birthday.

Chaos (and others) - the back story to this is horrendous. Three years ago he went completely off the rails, kicked out of school, drugs, hated us all etc etc (worse than you can possibly imagine).

I am just so proud of him (and of us all, I guess, for surviving the last few years).

I am so happy

that's brilliant maryz so chuffed for you!

That is so fabulous, onwards and upwards!

I'm so happy for you MaryZ.

It helps make me hopeful that this will eventually happen to my DS-15 who has decided we are not his family because we are not biologically related and is completely off the rails.

That's wonderful maryz

That's exactly where we were when ds was between the ages of 13 and 17, ByTheSea.

I'm not stupid enough to think we are completely out of the woods, but I do think the policy of stepping back, not reacting emotionally, being a bit more pragmatic in how we deal with him, is actually paying off.

I do think that the fact that his grandparents have managed to keep a good relationship with him (mostly by us slightly censoring how much of his behaviour we told them about, but also by them never interfering, no matter how hard they found it) has really helped. I was insistent through it all that it was very important that he felt that they and the wider family loved him and felt he was part of the family. Then he could hate me happily, and not feel "mine", but still stay connected to them.

If that makes sense .

Thanks MaryZ. I think we do that so hopefully it will all come out okay in the end. Anyway, I can always relate to your posts and just feel really delighted that you have had a lovely Christmas.

You will get through it, you know. Chin up.