The Truth About Adoption (Panorama, BBC1)

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hester Wed 14-Dec-11 22:05:55

Just realised I missed this! Did anyone else see it? Any good?

Kewcumber Tue 30-Oct-12 23:44:08

i am trying to get people to see the truth thats all.

My Ds's truth is that he was relinquished. Can you find an article about that and cut and paste it several times?

Most adoptive parents I've ever met are very aware of and sympathetic to the cases where parents and children have been separated due to below par work from social services or lack of resources to facilitate families staying together.

Having said that - most adopted children I have met (adopted in this country) have either physical proof of abuse (eg cigarette burns) or are old enough to know and recount the abuse and neglect they suffered. Accepting that a minority of cases should not have ended in adoption does not require a belief that the majority of cases should not have ended in adoption.

ontheedgeofwhatever Tue 30-Oct-12 21:24:33

Please thisisreallife stop it. I've seen your posts elsewhere and actually have a lot of sympathy with your view point. However, going at adoptive parents like this is not the way forward. Really and truly they do not undertake adoption lightly and they really believe (rightly or wrongly) that their children really could not stay with their birth families

I am no fan whatsoever of social services and family courts but the vast majority of these parents are just doing their very best for the children placed with them. They are not the ones who wrote the assessments, made the home visits, made decisions in court etc. etc. they are the wrong people to target so please use your energy to target those who deserve it not caring adoptive parents

thisisreallife Sat 27-Oct-12 13:13:02

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HappySunflower Fri 26-Oct-12 23:55:09

I have reported all your posts.
If you wish to discuss these news stories, I would strongly suggest that you do so elsewhere.

hifi Fri 26-Oct-12 23:28:24

Jesus get a grip!

thisisreallife Fri 26-Oct-12 23:18:24

i am trying to get people to see the truth thats all.

Kewcumber Fri 26-Oct-12 23:16:12

are you just posting identical links on every adoption thread thats current?

I'm not going to engage on this thread.

thisisreallife Fri 26-Oct-12 22:44:11

http://www.false-allegations.org.uk/false-allegations.html. another link for everyone to have a look at

thisisreallife Fri 26-Oct-12 22:41:24

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thisisreallife Fri 26-Oct-12 22:34:52

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thisisreallife Fri 26-Oct-12 22:33:26

a foster carer gets between £250 and £450 a week (depending on who their employer is) per foster child.

ATourchOfInsanity Fri 26-Oct-12 22:29:57

I didn't see this unfortunately. Hope it comes onto iplayer soon.
I did watch something a couple of years ago on fostering which was shocking. So many kids get moved about, so many times in their lives, and by the time they get adopted they usually have difficulty attaching as they have learnt not to with the foster families. One family had a girl who had been moved so often that she was aggressive and made family life very hard for all of the other children as well as the parents. It clearly was due to her re-homing, but the family had few ways to deal with it without complete counselling. There was no funding for this AT ALL. Their point was that if you are going to mess a kid about so much, at least have the balls to put some funding into sorting out their poor heads before dumping them on a family to deal with.
It also pointed out how much each child costs in the foster system which is equivalent to a very high end full time boarding school.

I was annoyed as I looked into adoption before having DD and was basically told that as a single woman with savings and a house that wasn't enough. They were going to talk to all of my ex partners (how they thought this was a good judge of someone I have no idea) but the whole process could take 4-20yrs, if it ever happened. So I could be 50 with a small child but not single and 29 confused

thisisreallife Fri 26-Oct-12 22:29:34

sorry but it is not nice to call someone who is telling the truth a liar. don`t you agree ?

scottishmummy Fri 26-Oct-12 22:27:46

do stop shouting

thisisreallife Fri 26-Oct-12 22:26:25

CAFFCASS FOUND GUILTY.......PORTSMOUTH NEWS

SOCIAL WORKER LIED TO COURT ABOUT CHILDREN

CHRISTINE PURCELL MADE UP DETAILS FOR A REPORT IN PORTSMOUTH CROWN COURT

SHE PLEADED GUILTY IN COURT AND WAS JAILED FOR 12 MONTHS.

THIS WAS IN THE PAPERS OTHER CAN BE FOUND IN THE PAPERS TOO

THERE OUT THEIR FOR THE WORLD TO SEE

scottishmummy Fri 26-Oct-12 22:21:36

pictures? do go on whistle blow about these heinous workers
if you have robust substantiated evidence of bad practice you must share it with authorities
or is this an online rant and some heresay gleened.id not quote hemming as your main man either

thisisreallife Fri 26-Oct-12 22:19:19

think what you want ............... your probably a social worker or someone related to one. the facts are out there about ss its up to you if take note of them or not.
i wish i could post pics on here of social workers and caffcas workers who have been jailed for either their abuse of children or lying in the family court.

scottishmummy Fri 26-Oct-12 22:13:00

hemming is a joke,not credible
isnt he the prolific shagger with a mistress and hatred of sw
youre a very shouty preoccupied poster,a bit out there

thisisreallife Fri 26-Oct-12 22:10:25

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scottishmummy Fri 26-Oct-12 21:58:15

have you had access to confidential case notes,transcripts and reports
or is this het up angst gleened from google and daily mail

thisisreallife Fri 26-Oct-12 21:53:53

the ss wont even let stella`s husband have the children as he is a serving solder in the army. he fights for his country but the ss take his baby

scottishmummy Fri 26-Oct-12 21:53:48

you are posting alarmist provocative posts about SW and adoption
clearly you have a ishoos
and youre coming across a bit daft

thisisreallife Fri 26-Oct-12 21:50:39

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